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Mona,
I am truly sorry to hear what’s happened to you. I’m sure having to deal with the wedding being called off AND the financial burden left to you has got to be difficult.
I know you mentioned that his credit was trashed. I don’t suppose he has any credit available in order to transfer some of this burden onto his credit? Credit cards perhaps? If not, then I would get something in writing, signed and notarized, that he is responsible for at minimum half the debt. Set up a working payment plan suitable to you both. A few years ago there was a story in the news about a couple who had split, the same thing happened to her. She sued him (no, I’m not suggesting this) and won a judgement against her ex-fiance. I would at least suggest you get something in writing.
As for all the debt, with 2 months still to go for the wedding it seems to me you’d be able to cancel some of the things that go along with weddings. For example, churchs or places, wedding receptions, caterer’s, photographers, etc …. You might have to lose the deposit, but most places allow refunds, especially with 2 more months to go.
I can see not returning a wedding dress as most have to be altered. Honeymoon trips – heck, I’d just go by myself.
In any event, I’m new to this site myself so I’m not nearly as knowledgeable on how to handle this as many of the folks are here. However, I will say keep reading the boards. There is a tremendous amount of information and everyone is genuinely helpful.
Best of luck to you.
MONA wrote:I WAS TO BE MARRIED IN 2 MONTHS- AND WE JUST CALLED IT OFF...WITH THE ENGAGEMENT RING, LOST DEPOSITS, WEDDING DRESS...I AM IN ABOUT $12,000 DEBT WITH THAT AND ANOTHER $14,000 IN CREDIT CARD DEBT B/C OF MY STUPIDITY WITH MY FIANCE PURCHASING THINGS FOR HIM...$26,000 IN DEBT- IN MY NAME ONLY. HE SAID HE'LL HELP PAY AND HE HAS GIVEN MY ABOUT $400 SO FAR....I HAVE TRANSFERRED BALANCES ON 4 CREDIT CARDS SO I HAVE ABOUT 5.9% ON EACH. ANY SUGGESTIONS HOW TO PAY OFF QUICKER AND HOW TO HEAL A BROKEN FINANCIAL HEART?
You want to develop a simple, written contract stating that your ex agrees to pay $X amount of dollars toward the debt (x payments of $y dollars due on a specific date), and your ex has already paid $400 toward the debt. You and he sign it in front of a witness, and the witness also signs it. You keep one copy, you give him another copy. You will also need to give him a receipt (and keep a copy for yourself) for each payment that he makes.
Get him to pay for at least the things that you purchased for him on your own credit cards.