Hey, ya just never know. If they haven't spoken in years, she might even have a financial situation of her own where a lump sum of $10k or something might work out good for her too!
Just have him give her a call and say he just wants to toss an idea at her, and she's not obligated, but if she'd be willing to listen to it, she'd really appreciate it.. and go from there. If they are in different states maybe he could contact an attorney there that could draft up the agreement and just go to court for an hour on their behalf and be done with the whole thing. Even if it costs him $500 or so - if it saves him thousands, who cares! If she's not game for it though, then you're plan sounds like the next best thing. Yes, the AU account will report the whole history, so that should help him.
I hate all this stuff. It's never fun for any party involved. I give up on my situation. He can keep the $ if his child isn't important enough for him to pay it without being forced. It's admirable of your BF to be doing his best to fulfill his obligation, I hope it works out.
SherriLynn wrote:
UpUpUp wrote:
She mentioned later in the thread that his daughter is 18 now and not in school, so all he owes is the arrears. I think it's a rather good idea to approach the mother and ask if she'd be willing to settle for less. IF, and this is a big IF...they are in agreement, it's rather inexpensive to file a petition and go before the courts to have the previous judgement amended, etc. Perhaps while in court you could ask the judge to have the entries removed from credit report?
If my child was 18 and I was just waiting on back support, I would have no problem settling up, getting a lump sum and having it be done and over with. I speak from the perspective of a mother that was only awarded $175 per month and doesn't get a dime, but hey, ya never know.
niecey89 wrote:
they would need to go to court to end the support if she agrees. just remember that support can be reinstated if the child is not 18 or still in school
That is a great idea, only they haven't spoken to one another in years, and I'm sure she wants all the money. Plus the fact she is in CA and he is in AZ. I will show him this thread tonight and see if he thinks that might be possible. He his very grateful for everyone's advice. The suggestion I came up with last night was for him to continue paying the arrears like he has been doing if he can't get a loan, then just wait a few months after my CapOne account is on his report (AU) so it shows a positive history (it will go back to the date I opened the acct right?) and then app for BofA and hope he gets a 99/500 offer, or go for the fully secured if that's what it takes. Funny thing is, we were at a car dealer two years ago and they were positive they could get him financed, since he needs a car to get to work so he can pay his arrears, but Orchard turns him down! Unbelievable!
Message Edited by SherriLynn on
09-19-2008 03:32 PM
Message Edited by UpUpUp on
09-19-2008 07:32 PM
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