Yeah, it is easy to be sucked into that, especially when you have compulsive tendecies like I have.
Last week I submitted a post in the Success Stories forum. After that I took a look at how far I had come in a few months. Do not get me wrong, I still have a ways to go, but I am not where I was just a month ago.
I was going to say that I am impatient as well, but started thinking about what has helped me to sit back and take a breather just this past week. 1. My denial letters have gone from saying "bankruptcy, too many deliquencies..." to "too many inqueries." 2. I just started journaling on my computer. The one thing I wrote about was appreciation. Shifting the focus off being impatient in trying to GET MORE to an appreciation of WHAT I HAVE has helped.
Do not get me wrong, I am not saying to settle. I just know my own history and based on that history, I certainly thought that credit rebuilding was a long way down the line. In fact, I was so stuck in this belief that it took 4 1/2 years for me to even start! When I did, and had some success, I lost my mind. Not like that was long ago. I mean, I was still overly obsessing as of last week! And I know I am still a lil crazy with it, but I am at least at the point where I do not just see what I DONT have, which allows me to appreciate and nurture what I DO!
3. So the third thing was that I realized that when I was younger, I never thought about CL and CLI and how this card had an annual fee and this one did not or what rate I had. I simply had cards, no matter the CL or status that came with them. I simply paid my bills whenever they were due. THAT is what lead me to have what I now have learned are "prime cards." Thinking on that has allowed me to stop looking for CLI and more credit ..more this.. more that... I can sit back and decide that I really do not need more. I need to nurture what I have, which is what I stopped doing years after having pristine credit and my personal life was in turmoil. The rest will fall in place!
This is not meant to lecture or to say that I know what is best for anyone esle. Just offering up what I am doing to try to help myself stay focused on what really matters in my situation and to get through this very new, exciting, and sometimes tricky development. It has only been a week of trying this, but I think it will work out for me. When you figured that you have enough, just sit back and nurture and wait for the rewards of doing that.
P.S.
Hey if all of that is not enough of an incentive, then this is. EQ Score over the past two weeks: 609 to 616 after one new account posted to today 608 I am sure from application spree. Time to just chill out and let the new credit work for me.
Message Edited by Changingmantra on 05-04-2008 09:22 PM
Message Edited by Changingmantra on
05-05-2008 04:22 AM
*Note to self* Remember why and for how long you had to rebuild in the first place! One Day at a Time, One Day at a Time!
