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A lie of omission is still a lie....right?

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Re: A lie of omission is still a lie....right?

If you know you are for certain not getting married then I wouldn't sweat it. Save for yourself. I also personally wouldn't buy a house with someone I was emotionally involved with but not married to. Nothing but trouble there. Just my humble opinion. Best of luck op. 

Message 21 of 28
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Re: A lie of omission is still a lie....right?

Since you have concerns ... move carefully as trust in a relationship is primary. As you know, you can only change you so unless your partner decides there is a problem or situation you cannot force the change on the person. Long term, do you want to be in a situation where you have a lack of trust?
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Message 22 of 28
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Re: A lie of omission is still a lie....right?

Since I know you've all been antsy for an update....Smiley Tongue  The incident that led to the post was without a doubt the very best thing that could have happened for our relationship.  We had long talks, soul searching, a few blow out fights, and finally a realization that we are only pretending if after 7 years we can't even share how much money we make, much less combine it.  Soooooooooooooooo

After more talks, soul searching and a few more fights, we are now married!!  I'll save the gory details, but basically digging deep into our finances meant digging deep into pretty much everything.  I have used YNAB for years, and he is now on board (as long as I do the dirty work).  Anyway, my story has a happy ending Heart

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Message 23 of 28
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Re: A lie of omission is still a lie....right?

That;s great, 2kids2cats!!!  You were so right about the pretending thing. Congrats! HeartHeartHeartHeartHeart



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Message 24 of 28
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Re: A lie of omission is still a lie....right?

Congratulations!

 

I hope you will update this thread after 6 months and again at 12 months.

 

I'd like to know how the finances work out. Smiley Happy

Message 25 of 28
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Re: A lie of omission is still a lie....right?

Congratulations! I'm old school and a huge believer in marriage. I think marriage gives a couple a solid foundation in which to build.

 

Best wishes to birth of you, and congrats again!


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Message 26 of 28
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Re: A lie of omission is still a lie....right?

Best wishes to "BOTH" of you, not birth! I'm not trying to foresee the future here! Lol


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Message 27 of 28
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Re: A lie of omission is still a lie....right?


grillandwinemaster wrote:

Best wishes to "BOTH" of you, not birth! I'm not trying to foresee the future here! Lol


I kinda liked the "birth of you," like a whole new life.  As for any other type of birth, unless I change my name to Sarah, my days are done, lol.  While I'm only half of 90, the ship has sailed Smiley Very Happy

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