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Am I in the Wrong Here?

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Re: Am I in the Wrong Here?


Skater wrote:

if my husband talked to me like that i wouldn't be sticking around for long.  she's buying things for your children.  help her out.  jeez


If there's no place to live and they're flat broke when the baby comes.... what then?

 

I get that she's pregnant but this spending issue doesn't seem new.

 


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Message 21 of 28
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Re: Am I in the Wrong Here?

RUN AWAY!!!

child support will be cheaper than the total package!!

I speak from experience.

Message 22 of 28
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Re: Am I in the Wrong Here?


Burned2manybridgesB4 wrote:

RUN AWAY!!!

child support will be cheaper than the total package!!

I speak from experience.


There are things people just have to learn the hard way. Smiley Happy

 


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Message 23 of 28
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Re: Am I in the Wrong Here?


Burned2manybridgesB4 wrote:

RUN AWAY!!!

child support will be cheaper than the total package!!

I speak from experience.


Sad.

 

But true.

 

I do not see this ending well for anyone but their divorce lawyer.

 

Message 24 of 28
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Re: Am I in the Wrong Here?

Hello. I was lucky enough to go to a conflict management training this past week. When we are in conflict with someone, it takes up 95% of our energy - this is clearly evidenced by the time and energy you put into the conversation post.

We are in conflict when there is a perceived (or true) feeling of lack of resources. (Ie. Money).

As everyone has said here, it's not the haircut, it's the relationship and communication that is a problem.

I'm fine with giving each other weekly allotments to spend, we do that in our house. And if 500 is what her budget is, then she has to make do with it. We all either live within our budget or go into debt.

Good luck to you both. Hopefully you two can work on this before the baby comes so little one doesn't have to grow up in an atmosphere of negative energy.

And I do realize this post is pretty old.
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Message 25 of 28
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Re: Am I in the Wrong Here?

Is that Booner????

 

How you been?  Long time no see!!!!!

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Message 26 of 28
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Re: Am I in the Wrong Here?

 According to me, you are wrong, if you really think that pragnency changes her way of thinking about finance than you are wrong.

Message 27 of 28
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Re: Am I in the Wrong Here?

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