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I ruined my husband's credit and he doesn't know it

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Re: I ruined my husband's credit and he doesn't know it

Be truthful about everything. The truth shall set you free 

Message 11 of 18
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Re: I ruined my husband's credit and he doesn't know it

Yes! Over time his credit will improve. Are you employed? Do you have a source of income that you can get these paid down? $11,000 is not insurmountable, you said you have defaulted, how so. Did you stop making payments? Are some cards or Accts in Collection?
Message 12 of 18
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Re: I ruined my husband's credit and he doesn't know it

how could he not know you have done this,i check my cards many times a day. if my wife would had done this to me, knowing how much pride i take in keeping my credit score good, there would be a divorce coming, but to each there own .

Message 13 of 18
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Re: I ruined my husband's credit and he doesn't know it


mlm75 wrote:

how could he not know you have done this,i check my cards many times a day. if my wife would had done this to me, knowing how much pride i take in keeping my credit score good, there would be a divorce coming, but to each there own .


There are many people that don't pay attention to their credit so that could be the case here.  But I hear you and if my other half did that to me secretly, they'd rue they even tried. Everyone is different...

Message 14 of 18
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Re: I ruined my husband's credit and he doesn't know it


ABCD2199 wrote:
You can't fix it, you can only come clean and accept whatever the penalties are. He has to fix it himself.

Since they were fraudulently opened he can fix them by informing the police and having the accounts shut down, but there may be penalties for you there.


This can be filed with law enforcement as an unknown perp... since it wasn't made known at the time. But, there is a risk to filing and then finding out it was your spouse.

 

Ultimately though, I think if you're married, you cannot technically accuse your spouse of fraud... because they are purportedly legally allowed to represent you.

 

This is why you freeze your credit reports... or why you don't get married.

Message 15 of 18
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Re: I ruined my husband's credit and he doesn't know it

I'm not a lawyer but being married doesn't give you power of attorney for another person.  Same goes for parents and kids.

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Message 16 of 18
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Re: I ruined my husband's credit and he doesn't know it

The beauty of being married is that you don't even need power of attorney to legally & financially speak for your spouse.

This is why it's so difficult to unwind such a union.

People find out all the time in divorce court that there is very little recourse once their spouse has raided the accounts.

Whether it should be legal is a different discussion entirely.
Message 17 of 18
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Re: I ruined my husband's credit and he doesn't know it


Yes-Its-Me wrote:

mlm75 wrote:

how could he not know you have done this,i check my cards many times a day. if my wife would had done this to me, knowing how much pride i take in keeping my credit score good, there would be a divorce coming, but to each there own .


There are many people that don't pay attention to their credit so that could be the case here.  But I hear you and if my other half did that to me secretly, they'd rue they even tried. Everyone is different...


 This is likely the case...   We all have to remember, we are hyper-active when it comes to credit.  The average person MIGHT review their statements at the end of the month, and that's it.  Many couples (married and otherwise) have one person "in charge" of the finances, and the other has minimal involvement.  My wife's parents are like that... Her mother pays all the bills and her father doesn't pay much attention as long as his credit card works to buy lunch and tools once in a while.

 

 Not having had that situation happen to me where my credit was ruined by a spouse, I'm not sure how I would react.  I suspect it would greatly depend how I found out about it, what the money was spent on and her attitude towards the situtation once I knew.  I can envision a scenario where it wouldn't lead to a divorce, but it would certainly be the end of letting her have access to any of my personal accounts.  I most likely any joint accounts without careful monitoring.

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