04-16-2017 07:34 AM
Gotcha, thanks. I agree completely. If someone is going to pay half the bills but only brings in 1/3 of the income, the other partner (who has greater income) needs to make up for it with things like cooking/cleaning/house work IMO. Something to offset the financial advantage.
04-18-2017 11:36 AM
04-19-2017 08:00 AM - edited 04-19-2017 08:02 AM
I have been living with my boyfriend for 3 years now. I originally moved into this place myself and he immediately started staying over...basically moved in but wouldnt admit it right away and then for the first few months said he didn't want to dip out on his roomate so was still paying rent at his place
That is his problem, not yours. Roomate takes precedence over you.
. After about 5 months I finally started demanding some kind of money as I am a single mom with two kids, but right off the bat we disagreed on how much to pay. He thought since I had kids he should not pay as much, he only wanted to pay as a room rental at $100 a week, even though I paid for all household item, all food and all hygiene products not to what he offered was barely half the rent.
Where on earth did he see a Motel 6, We'll leave the light on sign hanging off your door.
After only two month of helping me pay the bills he pushed me to put real estate on hold and get a steady weekly paying job, which I did and agreed to do until the next income tax season when, again I wanted to pursue real estate.
When I ask he to give me money for his share he says he will buy his own stuff but never does. I don't understand why he insist on living like rooomates but is ok with me being his girlfriend when its covenient.
Free Room Service with perks.
He makes excuses that he isn't use to being responsible for a household, he is 35 with no kids and has always rented a room. I explained that I don't feel comfortable moving into another place with him (our lease is up in 3 months) and putting his name with me on a lease if this is his attitude.
Bingo! Go with what your head tells you.
oh and we are moving into a bigger house because he wants a yard and garage!!! that means larger rent.
He doesn't contribute enough now, it will be larger rent for you. Please do not go this route.
Everytime I try to talk "money" he gets defensive or flips it around and says that I'm just jealous that he makes more money then me.
I have even kicked him out a few times and paid all the bills my self just to prove to him this has nothing to do with me wanting his money.
You didn't need to prove anything, he is manipulating you again to "convince" you with false statements that you NEED him and his money, which in reality, he only NEEDS you to feed him, put a roof over his head for a paltry amount, supply him with essentials.
He says he wants the same things in life, I don't doubt it but maybe we just have different ideas how to get there...
As long as it's only your dime.
04-19-2017 12:03 PM
For me we do the following (14yrs togther - Not Married)
1. Seperate bank accounts
2. Seperate investments
3. Split Utilities evenly
4. Mortgage: Paid off. When there was a mortgage I refused to pay because my name not on it. However to offset we do split residential taxes
5. Commercial: Paid off. You had before we met so you pay taxes on it from rent monies
6. Shopping, dinning, trips etc: We pay our own ways.
7. Credit: Pay our own mobile, CC, insurance, loans etc.
8. Both have wills, POA, Medical POA, living revokable trusts etc. just in case something happens to either of us.
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04-20-2017 08:55 PM
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