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When loaning money to family goes bad...

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Ups77
Regular Contributor

Re: When loaning money to family goes bad...

I always follow one rule. I don't lend money to family or friends because they'll being to feel that your obligated to do them the favor. That's just me.

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Anonymous
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Re: When loaning money to family goes bad...

Take her to court....no remorse, money is money. Claim your money asap!
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masscredit
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Re: When loaning money to family goes bad...

Update. I set her up on a payment plan so I'd be paid off in just under 1 year. I received my last payment yesterday. It was actually a double payment so she paid it off early. Persistance and the other person wanting to do the right thing pays off!

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IOBA
Senior Contributor

Re: When loaning money to family goes bad...

I am glad it paid off for you!  (Literally!)

 

Congratulations!

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Anonymous
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Re: When loaning money to family goes bad...

Well now I hope you know never to loan money unless you are ok with losing it!

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masscredit
Valued Contributor

Re: When loaning money to family goes bad...

This has taught me that some people don't think like I do so I now have a whole new outlook when it comes to "lending" money. It's more like giving money to someone and they might give it back. 

Pre-Credit Rebuild Scores Pre-DC (3/24/22) - EQ - 524 / TU - 519 / EX - 495

Current Scores - EQ - 687 / TU - 663/ EX - 677

SDFCU Secured - $5000 / TD Bank - $5000 / Mercury - $5000 / Capital One Savor One- $5000 / Capital One QuickSiver - $4500 / Ally Master Card - $2800/ Walmart Mastercard - $2250

Andrews FCU SSL $1500
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UncleB
Credit Mentor

Re: When loaning money to family goes bad...


@masscredit wrote:

This has taught me that some people don't think like I do so I now have a whole new outlook when it comes to "lending" money. It's more like giving money to someone and they might give it back. 


+100

 

Several years ago an older coworker told me I should never lend money to family; I should give it to them.  If they someday paid me back I should simply feel fortunate, but if they didn't it's no problem since it was a gift anyway.

 

It made absolutely no sense at the time, but later it made perfect sense, and I've been living by that "rule" for a while now.  I admit it does make things a bit easier; at one time I would be quick to use a credit card for family, but since that's not "money" I no longer do that... only money in my account is available for "gifting", not my credit.  Smiley Wink

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sarge12
Senior Contributor

Re: When loaning money to family goes bad...

Anyone in my family close enough for me to loan money, are close enough for me to give money. I often call it a loan to make them feel better...ie Pay me back when you can! You might think that I would suffer due to this, but somehow I am never short of resources. My entire adult life I always had a good job and steady income. Any past money troubles I had were of my own making before I became generous with family. Maybe God has rewarded my generosity with more income than I needed BECAUSE of my generousity.

 

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Turbobuick
Established Contributor

Re: When loaning money to family goes bad...

My brother in law (our wives are sisters) decided not to pay the $1500 owed me in a sales transaction. Now he refuses to come to my home. Best money I ever lost. Smiley Very Happy

 

I do agree with the comment that if you can't afford to give it away, never loan to family or friends. 

 

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elim
Senior Contributor

Re: When loaning money to family goes bad...


@Turbobuick wrote:

My brother in law (our wives are sisters) decided not to pay the $1500 owed me in a sales transaction. Now he refuses to come to my home. Best money I ever lost. Smiley Very Happy

 

I do agree with the comment that if you can't afford to give it away, never loan to family or friends. 

 


   hrmmmmm, I have a son in law (per se) I'm trying to get rid of.  May be worth $500.  Great idea, thanks!

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