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Registered: ‎12-30-2011

Re: When to bring up money

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I'm still experimenting with it in my own recent dating experience; however, given that apparently my employment situation is one of the primary deciding factors for mate acceptability for the women I've been dating... and that during my school-only foray for the past several months I've essentially become undatable, financial disclosure is fair game incredibly early in my book.  


This may not hold true for the 20ish set, but 30+ or 40+ this appears to hold.


+1000 to the comments around the issue to get them to open up, once I even mentioned I was a former moderator here as a hobby and I got a phenomenal amount of useful information back haha.  That was entertaining looking back on it, but it worked.

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Re: When to bring up money

Yes-Its-Me wrote:

Only bring up financial discussions with someone you are very serious with and whom you see a long term with. A few clues can be gleaned from spending time with him though during the initial "casual phase".


For example, at a restaurant when he places an order as you pretend to think of what you will be ordering, glance over the price of his order on the menu. Doesn't hurt to do soSmiley Wink. If he is always ordering the most expensive meals then that gives you a little clue. Also pay attention to his reactions to when you bring up shopping or anything relating to money.

I would bring it up at the very moment they have financial distress like losing a job, unexpected speeding ticket, or purchasing a big ticket item they've been wanting...


JK. I agree completely with YIM. No need to bring it up to someone you see as a casual dater. If you see your self marrying him then it'll be a good time to bring it up... preferably not during any of the other examples I mentioned above.

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Registered: ‎10-03-2013

Re: When to bring up money

but , by your scores you really had to ask that question at that point in time.  


when did you decided was an appropriate amount of time to mention this imaginary paper that dominates everyones lives? 


maybe you shouldnt bring it up , maybe people should just have thier **bleep** together .

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