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dodfire
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Registered: ‎04-14-2012

Re: New sports bike


Open123 wrote:

dodfire wrote:

OPEN....true you are an adult and can do what you want. Just that my opinion is there is no ME or MY money in a marriage, however some tend to be different.

I think new Sports Bikes are around $10k yes?

If my wife wanted to go treat herself on a shopping spree for $200-$300 without my consent that would be fine....

IF I came home and she surprised me with a HONEY LOOK WHAT I BOUGHT for $10k-$12k item.....WOW !!! Just WOW!!! Im not sure exactly what I would do.....

Your relationship must be much different than most.....so best of luck with that. 


She has her own accounts, and so do I.  In CA, we can have invidicual CC accounts etc...This portion is mine and from my year end's bonus I get every March.

 

She has her own accounts as do I, and our joint too.  For me, I don't need her permission to buy things I'd like, and don't expect her to seek mine.  In my view, I don't need her permission to buy a sports bike, but certainly would need to explain it.  


Well you should not be concerned about it then..... Congrats on your new bike!

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Open123
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Re: New sports bike

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dodfire wrote:

Open123 wrote:

dodfire wrote:

OPEN....true you are an adult and can do what you want. Just that my opinion is there is no ME or MY money in a marriage, however some tend to be different.

I think new Sports Bikes are around $10k yes?

If my wife wanted to go treat herself on a shopping spree for $200-$300 without my consent that would be fine....

IF I came home and she surprised me with a HONEY LOOK WHAT I BOUGHT for $10k-$12k item.....WOW !!! Just WOW!!! Im not sure exactly what I would do.....

Your relationship must be much different than most.....so best of luck with that. 


She has her own accounts, and so do I.  In CA, we can have invidicual CC accounts etc...This portion is mine and from my year end's bonus I get every March.

 

She has her own accounts as do I, and our joint too.  For me, I don't need her permission to buy things I'd like, and don't expect her to seek mine.  In my view, I don't need her permission to buy a sports bike, but certainly would need to explain it.  


Well you should not be concerned about it then..... Congrats on your new bike!


Thanks!  

 

It really isn't a serious concern, the sort where it would be if instead of buying a bike, I bought someone dinner I shouldn't have.  LOL  

 

My intention for this thread was for it to be a "tongue-in-cheek" one on the often comical banter between husband and wives over minor differences.  It certainly wasn't meant to be serious; and, I'm quite frankly suprised it has ellicited the sort of "Dr. Phil" types of replies.  

 

Even my wife would be suprised and amused at the same time if she read this thread. 

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Gunnar419
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Registered: ‎01-23-2013

Re: New sports bike

I'm not seeing where you get tongue in cheek.

 

Okay, so you have separate accounts and a solid relationship. Good.

 

But it looks like you feel the need to lie about the holiday and make the purchase both when your wife wasn't looking and over her objections. Okay, so maybe you have the kind of relationship (and finances) where a $10k purchase is no big deal and she understands and accepts that her objections don't carry any weight.

 

But if so, why the subterfuge?

 

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dodfire
Posts: 1,453
Registered: ‎04-14-2012

Re: New sports bike


Open123 wrote:

dodfire wrote:

Open123 wrote:

dodfire wrote:

OPEN....true you are an adult and can do what you want. Just that my opinion is there is no ME or MY money in a marriage, however some tend to be different.

I think new Sports Bikes are around $10k yes?

If my wife wanted to go treat herself on a shopping spree for $200-$300 without my consent that would be fine....

IF I came home and she surprised me with a HONEY LOOK WHAT I BOUGHT for $10k-$12k item.....WOW !!! Just WOW!!! Im not sure exactly what I would do.....

Your relationship must be much different than most.....so best of luck with that. 


She has her own accounts, and so do I.  In CA, we can have invidicual CC accounts etc...This portion is mine and from my year end's bonus I get every March.

 

She has her own accounts as do I, and our joint too.  For me, I don't need her permission to buy things I'd like, and don't expect her to seek mine.  In my view, I don't need her permission to buy a sports bike, but certainly would need to explain it.  


Well you should not be concerned about it then..... Congrats on your new bike!


Thanks!  

 

It really isn't a serious concern, the sort where I would be if instead of buying a bike, I bought someone dinner I shouldn't have.  LOL  

 

My intention for this thread was for it to be a "tongue-in-cheek" one on the often comical banter between husband and wives over minor differences.  It certainly wasn't meant to be serious; and, I'm quite frankly suprised it has ellicited the sort of "Dr. Phil" types of replies.  

 

Even my wife who be suprised if she read this thread.  


Im no Dr Phil and certainly do not mean to offend you in any way...Im just putting in my 2 cents! As I said before, you are obviously in a different type of relationship than any that I have seen or heard of.

I think that the majority of people here or any other place would agree that a purchase such as this is not a comical banter or a minor difference.

**Unless maybe you are the financial equivalent of Bill Gates!!  In which case I doubt you would be lurking around on a credit forum.

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Open123
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Re: New sports bike


Gunnar419 wrote:

I'm not seeing where you get tongue in cheek.

 

Okay, so you have separate accounts and a solid relationship. Good.

 

But it looks like you feel the need to lie about the holiday and make the purchase both when your wife wasn't looking and over her objections. Okay, so maybe you have the kind of relationship (and finances) where a $10k purchase is no big deal and she understands and accepts that her objections don't carry any weight.

 

But if so, why the subterfuge?

 


Thank you for your comments.  I appreciate your insights very much.

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Open123
Posts: 3,919
Registered: ‎02-23-2011

Re: New sports bike


dodfire wrote:

Im no Dr Phil and certainly do not mean to offend you in any way...Im just putting in my 2 cents! As I said before, you are obviously in a different type of relationship than any that I have seen or heard of.

I think that the majority of people here or any other place would agree that a purchase such as this is not a comical banter or a minor difference.

**Unless maybe you are the financial equivalent of Bill Gates!!  In which case I doubt you would be lurking around on a credit forum.


Not offended, and I appreciate your views and opinions.  

 

Clearly, this thread didn't create the sort of "banter" I was hoping for.  Thank you for your insights.

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Imhotrodcrazy
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Re: New sports bike

Glad I never had a problem with my wife on buying anything.  I bought what I wanted, when I wanted.  I bought cars, hotrods,  bikes, guns, etc, on my own.  One time I almost bought a horse, but I didn't have a place to keep it at home, so I passed on that.  On the other hand, the wife was also able to do the same.  So, it worked out great for us.  By the way, congrats on the new bike, hope you enjoy it. 

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Open123
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Registered: ‎02-23-2011

Re: New sports bike


Imhotrodcrazy wrote:

Glad I never had a problem with my wife on buying anything.  I bought what I wanted, when I wanted.  I bought cars, hotrods,  bikes, guns, etc, on my own.  One time I almost bought a horse, but I didn't have a place to keep it at home, so I passed on that.  On the other hand, the wife was also able to do the same.  So, it worked out great for us.  By the way, congrats on the new bike, hope you enjoy it. 


Thanks!  Appreciate it.

 

Joking aside, I just find the concept of needing anyone's "permission" to be extraordinary.  I'll certainly explain my rationale, listen to views for compromise and all it entails, but the right for me buy anything certainly isn't my wife's to give.

 

 

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Burned2manybridgesB4
Posts: 1,385
Registered: ‎03-15-2012

Re: New sports bike

I'd say congrats. I ride. Makes sense to me. My old lady will bite her tongue when it comes to my one freedom, as long as the priorities are met first.
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Shogun
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Registered: ‎04-15-2011

Re: New sports bike

Let's really test the theory.  Buy me one too and see what she says..  :smileyhappy:

 

Congrats on the new bike.  


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