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I think you should consider, then do what is best for the children. Divorce sucks, but the kids aren't culpable at all.
@Anonymouswrote:I think you should consider, then do what is best for the children. Divorce sucks, but the kids aren't culpable at all.
I would leave it alone but be open if they reached out. But I’m a person that is not going to “beg” a person to do something. I would just try to explain it to my children the best way I could if they should ask.
You have done the right thing and made great efforts, now it is time for them to reciprocate. You should not be the only one reaching out, as it takes more than one person to maintain a relationship.
You deserve happiness and a peace of mind, not stressing over this situation. I’m sure the divorce was stressful enough.
My wife has been through somewhat similar issues. Her ex walked out on them when ther daughter was almost 3, she caught him with another woman.
So, her daughter's 21 now. Her father has never been involved in her life for anything more than superficial things. His way of trying to show that he loves her was to buy her things and make every promise under the sun and moon, and break every single one of them. He lived 20 minutes away from her, but her childhood was an endless series of events where she was all excited that he was coming to pick her up for a weekend, only to end up crying because he blew her off again. By the way, I dont care what blood says, this is my oldest daughter and I could not be more proud of her.
Through the whole time, I couldnt stand how he treated her. But momma knew best, and she always kept to the policy that truth would not be sacrificed for the sake of preventing hurt feelings. We would keep things age appropriate, but our daughter grew up to be a beautiful, strong woman, sure of her identity and value. She also grew up knowing which people in her family she could count on--and which ones she could not. I even spoke with the guy myself one time, and told him that I was totally happy to work together with him, that I was not trying to take his place. He still blew her off, and still does to this day. But we never closed that door for him. We did not open it much either--we did not chase after him. The choice was left in his hands.
One day, a couple years ago, we were at home and our daughter was there for a visit. through the conversation, she told me that her father will always be her father, but that I was always "daddy" to her. Greatest thing she's ever said to me. So proud of who she is.
Anyway, thats what worked for us. Truth was never sacrificed, but we made sure not to bash him to our daughter. And while the door was always open for him to step up, we never chased after him. It was not easy, but the end results are really great. I hope this helps.
lock the doors, change the phone numbers just don't bother OP if they really gave a bleep block would have never happen. ... I've done the first part before while it's hard emotionally you will get better at it over time be strong.