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Registered: ‎03-30-2008
Re: Boyfriend wants to sign up for utility - gets hit with security fees

kimmiller112 wrote:

You say that both of you had financial problems in the past.  You managed to work to fix those problems and seem to be doing well from that stand point.  I understand that you have him as an AU on one card that he has in his possession with a $500 limit.  What is it with the "we" stuff - like "we" need to check his CRs?  You are both in your 30's.  Isn't it time for him to take financial responsibility on his own?  If you can work on fixing your credit, then he should be able to (on his own), without having to be added as AU or without him needing someone to get his utilities for him.  Unless he gets his act straight very quickly, I'd be very careful letting him move in with you (after he has had a chance to live on his own, as you say).  He really needs to start establishing credit on his own.

Honestly? Even if his credit reports were stellar, I would STILL feel the need to see his reports as part of moving on in our relationship. I think that, in this day and age, it is only fair to have a clear view of what you're getting into when going forward in a relationship.


As far as the AU step, I did the very same thing when rebuilding. I was added to my mom's AU card when I first started rebuilding. I then started DV'ing, GW'ing, and taking other steps (including going to court) to clean up items that were already on my report. I also applied for & got a couple starter cards (which I still have, for now at least) to establish credit on my own.


I don't really view what I did back then differently from how I'm trying to help him now.

Hard work & patience can go a long way!
8/2009 (myFICO): TU - 599, EQ - 656
7/23/2010 (LO pull): TU - 738, EQ - 801, EX - 785
4/12/2012 (myFICO): TU -778, EQ - 791