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Re: Hoping I'm not the only bad person out there ...

BullsEye10 wrote:

Well, I am looking for validation today.


A little background.  


I am 38 years old and I am  8 years older than my wife


I spent over 10 years living alone and answering to no one before my now wife and I moved in together 2 years ago.


We have been married now for almost a year, and have combined finances at her insistence.  I was comfortable keeping everything separate and was resistant, but gave in ... kind of.  I maintained a money market account that she does not know about, and I occasionally replenish it with monies I make as a contractor.  The money is used for things I would rather not have to explain ... casinos, gentleman's clubs, etc.  Keep in mind I make more than enough money so that these small amounts (no more than 6-7K in the account at any one time) do not remotely effect her quality of life or our future.


My question is, does anyone out there have a credit card that their spouse does not know about?  I am thinking of getting a new card and having the bills sent to my office.  I am pretty sure I am going to do it, just wanted to know I was not alone in wanting to maintain some sort of independence.



LMBO... I am a wife and if I found out that my spouse did this I would question more than finical infidelity.  Honestly women are wise and what is done is the dark always comes to the light.  I think you should have your independence we all should; but when you are married you give up some of that and you should always be honest with your spouse.  HONESTY is the best policy and builds a strong healthy and happy marriage.  Remember:  A Happy & Informed wife makes a Happy HOME!!!

I would not say you are  a bad person at all, I think you are trying to find independence in a situation that is not suppose to be independent.  I would say talk to your wife, let her know you have a mad money account, suggest she get a mad money account for herself, and request a card for yourself.  Also, one last thought....what would you do if your wife was writing your note?  How would you feel if you found out on the tail end?  Just something to make you say HMMMMMM..