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Re: Hoping I'm not the only bad person out there ...

I think there is more to it then having a secret bank account. Frrst, you agreed to something that you were uncomfortable with in the first place and second, it doesnt seem you want to completly give up your independance. Nothing wrong with having some independence, which I think is healthy in a marriage. But you need to be upfront with her about this. If she finds out about your secret accounts, dont you think she will wonder about other things, perhaps infidelity.


I really think you should nip this in the bud and talk to your wife about this and perhaps seek some counseling.