Bullseye, I been married 11 years to my wife and certainly understand where you're coming from. I've resisted alot including stepping outside of my marriage once (i think you're headed down that path, if you're already this unhappy). I think you should literally talk to your wife about this and show her this thread as a way of showing her you do not want to go down this road but feel you might have to. I think this would be an eye opening experience for her, if she takes the time to actually read some of the responses to your situation.