I"m currently planning my wedding right now.  So far, we've spent about $5,000 and that isn't including a lot of stuff.  HOWEVER, we are not charging anything on credit cards.  I work A LOT of overtime to get the money for the wedding, and so does he.  The ONLY thing we have on a credit card is my engagement ring.  If she wants a $10k wedding, she should find a way to come up with it, imo.  My hubby-to-be was happy with whatever I wanted, and he is willing to help, but I'm not putting the financial burden on him to make it happen and to ruin our financial situation in the future.