Re: Ex Did a Terrible Thing... Is My Credit Ruined?
11-09-2012 09:43 AM
There's no concern about either of us filing spousal or anything like that. If anyone was going for spousal, it would have been me, when I left almost 3yrs ago & he was still making $145K, while I went down to $20K.
He was diagnosed & had surgery to remove the brain tumor 2.5 yrs into the marriage (12/2007).
He did a lot of rehab & was retired from the USMC in 8/2008. He secured a fabulous job, plus his retirement & disability. Total income for him was over $145K.
Things not being the same, and serious emotional problems he was having led me to leave in 2/2010.
We've had separate homes, lives & finances ever since.
He didn't quit working until 2/2012.
Even if he had some outside case for spousal support almost 3yrs after legal separation, he wouldn't do that - neither of us would. We get along very well & support each other. We're still family, just the brain tumor changed things to where we're friends not lovers.
It may help him that his finances started really falling apart once I left. When I was with him, I took care of ALL finances. He was doing strange things, like going through the check-out line twice, but only remembering one set of purchases. Buying 2 gym bags in one month, because he forgot he'd bought one. So, I basically continually wrangled him and was trying to keep him reigned in. Once I left, he began taking out cards all over the place and really screwed up the credit we worked so hard to have. I almost wonder if that can be used to show how incompetent he is. He didn't have the financial inability BEFORE the brain tumor. (along with a lot of other problems he developed).