I feel for you Hunting Mama.   I wonder if my roomies talk about me (their landlord) the same way?  

They had to have stepped on the toilet seat to break it clean through.  Then told me that I had to replace the toilet seat.  I refused becuase it was not a break from wear and tear.  It obviously came from abuse.   It broke all the way through where the stubby thing meets the toilet bowl.  Normal sitting on it would not do it.  (The girl is like 95 pounds maybe and the guy is like 150 pounds.  The seat was not even cracked when they moved in!)

What else?  They lost their grip on something heavy and it crashed into the light and fan fixture, knocking it loose.   They said they would pay to have it fixed or replaced.   To date they have not (been more than 6 months).   

What else?  The intake vent (near floor level) is filthy!   I told them they had to clean it.  They told me I had to replace it.  They said it was like that when they moved in.  Uh, no, it wasn't.  It was brand new - literally installed the day they moved in.   

Lol - so I wonder if they talk about me like that - horrible landlord?   The girl has told me that she does - that she tells everyone I am a horrible landlord becuase I won't do what she wants immediately!

There is a HUGE difference between the situations Hunting Mama.   It sounds like your house stuff is truly old and worn through and proper maintenance was not and is not done.  In my case, almost everything was literally new (within a few weeks) of them moving in.  [ lol - they even told me that the freezer (full size)  that was one year old was too old and had to be replaced!]  And I maintain things, like gutter cleaning, the yard, changing the furnace filter, changing the smoke detector batteries, etc.  The roomie renters just don't want to do anything themselves or take care of anything.

I wish you well in your quest for your own house!  Don't forget to budget for maintenance items!