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Re: My wife is making my financial life miserable

IOBA wrote:


Maybe your wife needs the instant gratification?  Maybe she feels she's too stupid to learn the finances, so since she's going to fail anyway, why bother?   Is there someone she can talk to, one on one, about this?

I think if she spoke to her father, he'd set her straight on this subject since he has had to bail out her irresponsible sister when she spent herself bankrupt. However, I really don't know how to delicately pair them to talk on this issue without revealing that I have sought his consult on this matter (I literally knew no one else I could turn to). I think she would explode if she knew I spoke to him about her problems with money.


I really don't think this is an instant gratification issue. I think she just doesn't care about the big picture and spends in the moment without considering the overall consequences. I liken this to a gambler's addiction and the inability to understand just how much money is gone until the pocket is empty.

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