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Re: Financially UNstable Fiancee
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I recommend a book called My Total Money Makeover, get the book and the kit, and it will give you guys a methodology in setting financial goals and creating a budget together... using this program, both parties are responsible for the finances and budgeting, so you get to eliminate the "mommy-mode" or "parent-child" aspect of the relationship.   The program will help him have insight into managing finances in a way that minimizes risk and helps to create a managed cash flow and mutual goals.  He can't literally abdicate all financial rights... He needs to be accountable in that he plays a role in deciding the budget. He can decide that yes, you pay these bills, but also he needs to not neglect financial decisions and discussions alltogether. That is not a loving way to handle the financial merger.

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