Child Support Woes
01-14-2012 09:13 AM
Anyone who has read some of my posts knows I have deep resentment that DH has to pay child support to his 20 year old daughter who lives across the country and we don't even see. She turned 18 and it stopped, but then 8 months later she was able to "restart" it by saying she was in college. The deal is we get to know grades, class schedule, credits etc. But the school in her state refuses to tell us anything even though she signed a Release of Info saying her dad could have that info.
We objected in August and 2 weeks later the division of child support mails us a letter that she is allowed to take normal breaks and support will continue. They didn't even BOTHER to investigate her school status.
So in Dec. he called again to check her school status, and same thing, they wouldn't tell him anything. This time, I'm about to file a grievance w/ the div. of child support, but the grievance form says to talk to a supervisor first. So I do this last month. She says "We don't even take objections in summer months bc school isn't open."
I say that school HAS started in Florida and it is up to DIV of CS to PROVE TO US SHE IS IN SCHOOL, expletive expletive. So they send her the objection and she had 30 days to reply. This was 12/9/11. So 1/9/12 when we still haven't heard I'm starting to call the Division again saying WTH, suspend it already! She said the daughter had until yesterday, that they will go through the mail and update the system to suspend, and I should be able to log on today and see that the status has been changed from Active to Suspend "If our system is working." She also said, and I quote "I won't let this one fall through the cracks AGAIN." She also says, "you know, if we get something over the weekend, we'll have to look into it." Why are they bending over backassward for that daughter to send in her side of things? The 30 day mark ended 1/9/12!!!!!!!!
So this morning I log on and guess what? Still says ACTIVE. I'm SURE that the daughter hasn't sent in the paperwork bc she has to send them a copy of the CMRRR receipt that she sent US the forms, which she hasn't.
So now I'm furious that they didn't suspend it yesterday for one, and am wondering if I should go ahead and file that grievance. I want them to credit DH from September - January for the support he paid when our objection went completely ignored. It's on THEM and HER to prove her school status and both failed. Who knows what a grievance will even do but bring attention on our case, right? he does owe arrears from years back when he was living w/ the mother until the daughter turned 3 years old, and then of course the mother files and child support backdates, and DH doesn't do a darn thing about it until I come into the picture years later and we do a modification and get the amt reduced almost 300 dollars. Why do guys just let this crap go like that?????
I'm so furious right now! HER state doesn't order support past 19, but of course OUR state does. I wish we were in South Dakota who ruled that it is unconstitutional to force a parent to pay support to an ADULT. Though New York can go past 23 so at least we aren't there.
I'm having a seriously hard time not letting this ruin my weekend!
Thanks for reading.
CLOSED FIRST HOME 8/19/11 EQ-630 EXP-691 TU04-653
CURRENT: EQ-701 EXP-??? TU08-720