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Re: Child Support Woes

rckstrscott wrote:

Booner72 wrote:

Tikon wrote:

Booner, reading through this whole thread I can't help but think your side of the story is seriously skewed. You sound overcome with bitterness and hate and it just doesn't make sense.


I would point out to everyone that there are very good reasons why someone in the daughter's position NEEDS the support from the parents.


When a child fills out a FAFSA for federal aid, they have to list their parents income. Depending on the parent's income this severely limits the financial aid they can receive. The only way around this is to file a special circumstances.


The accusation that she is not in school sounds dubious. You've thrown so many unrelated ad hominem attacks at this girl it's very hard to take your word for it.

DH didn't give copies of his taxes for her student aid, he didn't have to provide income, sign any forms, etc.   If she is in school getting fin. aid, she listed income, she pulled it out of her arse or got it off an old child support court battle from 2005.  You think the school is going to take that?  This brings up another good point - if she is in school and getting fin. aid, how the hell did she get his info?  Forging documents?  Getting it via SSN behind his back?


OF COURSE MY SIDE IS SKEWED!  THIS IS MY SIDE!  And of course there are all sorts of things irrelevant to the child support directly, but it's the entire situation w/ this "child" that I'm fuming about.  Please don't read my posts or comment to me if you are going to be calling me a liar.    I know I will be putting you on my "ignore" feature.


Isn't there a rule here that if you can't say anything nice then you can't say it at all? 


There has never been any proof whatsoever that she is in school.  Period.  Nothing FB ever mentions classes or tests or anything.  Only partying.  And you think it's past her to lie about this?  It's not.

I would like to interject something into this discussion:


Being a bad human being, and being 20 kind of go hand in hand. Yes, I know there are many good people out there in the young adult world. But I look at some of my behavior towards certain people when I was 20, or the actions of my youth, and I am embarrassed. Being 20 is the definition of being self-serving, self-centered, and selfish.


Your DH's daughter reminds me an awful lot of my youngest sibling. She was the kind of kid who stole money from the christmas tree and skip town. She was the type of kid who had a baby, and left my neice with me and my mother and went to Cancun for 2 weeks without telling me. She was the kind of person abaondoned my neice to the father when she was 5 and hasn't seen her since. She steals money, she lies, she probably has mental issues and we hadn't spoken to her in 4 years.


Or maybe she doesn't now. Maybe I have no idea because I don't know her anymore. Know whats shes doing. Just making assumptions.


My dad died when she was 12. I was 19.


I can't help to think that if she had a strong male presence growing, maybe she wouldn' be this way. Maybe she doesn't have to be this way. Maybe I should call her up and try to reach out again. Maybe she will shun me and is still doing those crappy things.


I am 33 now. Maybe it is time to let go of my anger and try to help my little sister before she kills herself or someone else.


Maybe I am wrong.


But after reading this entire thread, I personally feel the anger has taken over every facet of whatever this so called relationship is with this troubled young lady. It saddens me because you remind me of me and my anger towards my sister.


Maybe there is a way for you to let the anger go. Maybe there is a way for me to let the anger go.





Hi, Scott.  Thanks for sharing your sad story - it sounds like you miss your sister and want to reunite with her sometime soon.  There is a way to let the anger go, but it requires a lot of mental and spiritual work, if you are ready.   At the end of the day, all we have is our family and loved ones, that's really all that matters.   I know this in my heart as much as you do.  I am just not ready to do any of this work. 

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