@Anonymous wrote:@Lemmus and ezdriver could you both please show me where I said that I have a strategy on making a bank loan me anything?
Wow didn't know that my responding to someone who asked me a question "Isn't 250,000 a stretch on my income" would bring out all the posters with smart mouth responses and nothing really valuable to add.
...friendly and supportive, eh ...I rest my case ... 
^I would like to apologize if I offended you with that comment Lemmus. I have been a long time lurker here and finally decided to join. You and another poster by the name of Startingover have actually been favorites of mine and I love hearing the advice that offer. Please do accept my apologies 
...noted, accepted
...I see a lot of posts here from new posters and there are patterns in most ...many are sensitive to the somewhat personal info they are exposing and leave out essential info because of that ...some of us try to elicit the info needed to provide not only a direct answer to the question asked but to the questions we think the poster should be asking ...because the poster may be asking the wrong question or assuming things that simply are not so ...imnsho of course
...you responded to the income question another posted with the answer that you would be "fine" because you had other income ...you seemed to think the question was pointed at how you would manage paying for the mortgage ...and thus attacking your income ...others saw it as a very legitimate question directed at how you were going to convince a lender to approve that size mortgage based on your qualifying income
...your reply struck some as flippant and dismissive of the real heart of your original question ...not just do you qualify for a certain amount but, if the answer is no, then what do you need to do to get to a yes ...saying you have other income that can't be used to qualify isn't an answer imnsho ...its simply not a part of the mortgage approval issue ...and the subsequent posts targeted that ...ez responded appropriately to you imnsho ...you took it personally when it wasn't intended as such
...Shogun removed my subsequent response as he should have
...but understand that I know of no poster here that is trying to be a smart-ass or providing less than useful information ...sometimes we try to put a little humor into the responses ...and sometimes posters asking what are to them close to life and death issues fail to see that ...a little give on both sides goes a long way, eh