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The irony is that your response to the issue proves their point. You are willing to make bad decisions and pay your creditors late in order to try and buy a house that you currently might not qualify to buy. Just think about that, you are going to lower your credit score. Thats why they score you in a certain way because they are expecting you to end up lowering your credit score in the long run closer to your spouses! So you are doing exactly what you are upset that they are predicting you will do.
Thats too funny if you think about it.
Truly, I don't know if I have seen this advice any where in the responses, but the best advice is to just wait. Don't buy a house. Wait. Continue to pay your bills on time, and work out a payment plan and budget to start working on your spouses credit. Patience. Before you make a major commitment to a house, do your best to save an emergency fund, then save up a very good down payment and work on the credit.
Because right now, you run the risk of ending up in a situation that you will regret. Take some time be patient. You are in control of what you do. You have an opportunity to start off your marriage and make slow and wise financial decisions. What you do now can affect the future path of your marriage and fiscal situation.
So many people buy a home too quickly and then regret it a few years later. If you are patient and wait you will appreciate it. In fact, if you do it correctly, you won't even realize the stress and difficulty you have avoided.
If your answer to the situation is to pay your bills late...thats the first warning sign that you are about to do something thats over your financial head. Noone wants to hear this, but when you buy a home, you don't want it to be a stretch. You want it to be comfortable. You want to have room to spare. That usually means you have to wait until your financial picture is much better.
There is nothing worse then being newly married and not able to enjoy your day to day life because money is so tight. That beautiful home can soon become a heavy burden that is stopping you from enjoying life. Save, pay down bills and work on the credit.
You will be happy that you did.
I have been there. In my case, my new husband had some bad debt because his ex-wife defaulted on everything she got to keep and the CRAs don't recognize divorce decrees. I had to qualify completely by mysef, and I can tell you, it was stressful. However, I think that it should go by the mid score of the lower person--banks take a big risk, especially these day, and marrying a good score doesn't mean you are going to suddenly have great credit habits.
Here is what I would do if I were you:
1) Do your best to goodwill, dispute (legitimate disputing), and pay down the debt as much as you can.
2) Spend some of the wedding money on paying down bills. The previous poster is dead on--my score rose significantly--by 15 points--when I paid my bills off just prior to getting my mortgage. We did our own flowers and saved hundreds. There are ways to have a beautiful wedding and still be able to start a new life together.
3) Look into FHA. My mid score was less than hers and while the rates have been higher than conventional, they have still been good over the last few months. It seems like it is easier to qualify for FHA.
4) FInd a loan officer you can trust and have them look at scenarios for you. You would be surprised what you can qualify for. I was shocked that I was able to get the mortgage in just my name, and with a conservative underwriter, too!
The wonderful people on this forum have great advice. Lurk, share, listen, ask questions and learn.
Best of luck to you.
Here's a thought. Why don't you actually wait until you can afford what you want? So many people today want what they want when they want it. Quit whining and get on a written budget, quit eating out, do without, etc. Take your intensity and pay off the car, set aside an emergency fund, save money for a real downpayment, and then in awhile, you will be able to afford what you want and your credit will be fabulous. Yes, the easy credit has done everyone a disfavor. But let's get with the program and do things in the right order.
680 won't be such a big problem if you put down a chunk as a downpayment,,,she'll get the best rate. Forget the wedding & put that toward a downpayment.
FHA may be the way to go here and 680 is a great score and you can put down 3.5% or a little more.
OP: I agree with you about paying off the auto loan. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!