The underwriter is requesting a letter of explanation of your relationship with each other since neither of you are married but are co-occupying the house,
I don't find that strange or illegal.
You are making a major purchase and they want to know the extent of your relationship, I mean you are both responsible for the mortgage they just want to make sure your relationship is gonna outlast the mortgage terms.
Just be honest and you should be fine.
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