Timothy wrote:
remove him from your accounts, kick him out, find a good lawyer.
BRAVO!
Your "husband" obviously has no respect for you, or himself! Until he respects himself, he won't have a clue how to respect you!! The key is to respect yourself enough to, as a previous post says, get rid of the dead weight. If you have to, put a freeze on all your credit reports (or fraud alert) so that he can't gain access to YOUR credit anymore!
After you kick him out, see if there is any way your mortgage lender, if it's not too late, can help you save YOUR home. Find out if citi will help you make the payments on your van more manageable so you can get caught up on everything else.
Put an alert on any & all credit cards requiring them to check ID. If he has cards on your accounts in his name, CUT THEM OFF!
As llecs said, set everything so that he has no power to EVER make another financial decision on YOUR credit & YOUR money!
Do these things TODAY or Monday morning! That way, when you kick his behind to the curb, he won't have the ability to retaliate through your credit any further!
You can do this! I'm sorry if this sounds callous, however, honey, you'll have time to grieve the loss later (like after business hours). Right now, it's time to put your war face on and WIN!
