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Okay, this is a bit different, but I'll give my thought. I also have never been on a plane, so I can't really give you much there with the exception of saying yes, the $350+ to MS would seem more financially effective.
Now to the woman involved here. What stood out to me when reading this is that while I can see that she is really into you, according to what you said, everything is geared towards her. There is nothing wrong with wanting to go out of your way for someone, especially as a man. However, there is something to be said for both people making some sacrifices to make it work.
Everything you brought up about meeting her and beyond either involves you taking action, or it being more of a headache because of something she likes/doesn't like or will do/won't do. Guess what that leads to again? You going out of your way. Also, the biggest thing is that at the end, you mentioned her not wanting to move or stay in Cali after all of that. Guess what???? .......You got it!! You end up on the hook again to make a move for it to work.
What I am saying is there needs to be some level of compromise and sacrifice between the both of you. You also need to weigh out how worth it this is because the truth is you can do all of this out of the way stuff on your end, only for it to not work out. It's very risky. If she truly wants it to work as well, you will see her willing to go out of her way.....at least a little.
Total CL: $321.7k | UTL: 2% | AAoA: 7.0yrs | Baddies: 0 | Other: Lease, Loan, *No Mortgage, All Inq's from Jun '20 Car Shopping |
Hahah, yeah you're right bro lol, I mean I tell her come to Cali temporarily and I told her about how expensive it is here but also living here all my life nothing really happens here as far as earthquakes, maybe once in a blue moon there are earthquakes, just recently we had a wildfire but its not worst as other places that has snow, floods, etc. Man, I feel like I'm doing way too much, going above and beyond for her, and she tells me that she works full time, but help her mom out, her dad is out of the picture and she is broke so I don't know what else to do. She doesn't even have a car. Mind you that, there's some people younger than her traveled alone, but I don't understand why she wouldn't want to go alone, I would even pay for her trip to come here but it seems a lot of a hassle too.
Eventually, I do want to move out of California. I just don't see myself living here, we are just paying for the weather here and to start a business, the state wants $800/y which is insane, the laws here and people here I just can't do it anymore. What really scares me the most is me traveling over there and she never shows up...
Total CL: $321.7k | UTL: 2% | AAoA: 7.0yrs | Baddies: 0 | Other: Lease, Loan, *No Mortgage, All Inq's from Jun '20 Car Shopping |
My flying notes:
Smaller airports are more expensive. Might be cheaper to fly somewhere further away and rent a car.
Don't book online. Find the flights you want and book on the phone. A agent will be able to book a round trip and a one way on the same itinerary and reserve seats next to each other.
Use google flights to find the cheapest option across carriers. SW might not be the cheapest choice.
Don't buy "economy basic", it might save you 50-100 monies, but will make it much harder to sit together.
A couple of things:
1) airline fares are not rational from a perspective that flights are priced based on distance. Flight pricing has much more to do with competive situations, city pairs with lots of competition are generally cheaper than ones with only a single airline. Non-stops are often more expensive than taking a connection since many flyers consider them more desirable and are willing to pay more. Round trips are often cheaper than flying one direction only since the latter are purchased more by business travelers who are generally less price sensitive than tourists.
2) Sitting together depends on the airline, but Southwest is one of the easiest. They do not assign seats in advance, you pick any open seat when you board. Boarding positions are assigned by check in time. If you are in the A or B groups, you should be able to find two seats together, if you are in the C group, your chances go down. Check in online exactly 24 hours before flight time and you'll get an A or low B position. On other airlines unless you buy far in advance you might not find two seats together unless you pay extra for "premium" seats that generally offer a little more legroom.
3) as far as the relationship in general - YMMV, but I'd look for someone closer to home.
You need to find the smallest and most bumpy flight you can so you can rescue her while you are flying and let nature take it's course.
Seriously, as long as I could find a good job with work I like, I would have no problem moving for love since as much as I hate moving, I could always move back if things didn't work out and maybe I would like the new job and area better then the old one. You never know.
@Kree wrote:
Don't book online. Find the flights you want and book on the phone. A agent will be able to book a round trip and a one way on the same itinerary and reserve seats next to each other.
-1. Booking over the phone is often significantly more expensive (and never cheaper).
Others have already discussed the relationship side of this whole scenario. None of us know her as well as OP, so I won't get into that. (But do be careful -- my LDR didn't work out.)
While you should comparison shop, SWA would be a good option because of their open seating policy, if you're making your reservation separate from hers. (If she's not willing to pay for at least her flight, that's a red flag...) Pay for the Early Bird check in ($15-25 per) and you'll both likely be among the "A" group. (The first 45-60 people after wheelchairs, etc.) You can both board together with the latter of the two and sit together wherever is open.