"...she has 3 kids....she wants 2 more kids or even more..."
Got a thing for Mormon girls or something? Jeeze. lol
3 kids is a lot. More is absurd. If you're working 2 jobs as it is...you don't want this/this is a situation you can't confidently enter.
You're talking about some *overall* pretty rural areas, so sorry if I'm incorrectly assuming that she isn't well-off/working a relatively high paying job herself.
1 month isn't even a relationship yet (and you're LDR from the sounds of it, too, so really not much there...). Just a heads up, living together is a game changer. You don't get much personal/private time, since you always see each other when home. I've seen plenty of friends be dating their gf for years and then see it blow up by living together within a year. It happens. And that's without kids. And them frequently sleeping over each others' place a few nights each week.
Really consider things before uprooting your life. You have an emergency fund, great. But it's an emergency fund. Remember that. It isn't a gambling fund.
If you're without kids...man, don't do it. lmao
So many of my older co-workers are jealous that I don't have any kids still (just turned 29; don't want them still). If you want kids later, cool. But now isn't the time. Get your life all set up. Focus on yourself. Build something up, so that you can be comfortable with supporting your kids. Don't fall into that trap. Don't fall into the living paycheck to paycheck rat race. Kids are expensive. And annoying. And borderline useless. Get yourself a dog that'll actually make your proud. Training a dog is way more rewarding (I said it. Come at me, parents on myfico) in the meantime.
Time for some borderline offensive man to man talk: there will always be some hot single mother out there. Don't rush to settle down. There's plenty of attractive, good personality chicks out there with just one kid; they got knocked up age 18-22 cause "he said he loved me and would never leave me" (break up 4 months later cause babies suck and destroy all of your happiness) followed by dating toolbags, and now are just looking for a somewhat attractive guy that is stable. Spend 6 months to a year going to the gym and eating healthy and you can have pick of the litter. And since she'll be in her early-mid 20s, she'll be plenty happy to have a child with her supportive hero boyfriend/hubby (two fold: cause people are dumb and think having a child will be a symbol & confirmation of the love in their relationship, and second..."gotcha!" Having a child with you will help her legally, if ever need be. Her last baby daddy may have been a deadbeat, but she's got her claws in a winner now!).
Okay....enough dating advice. You're welcomed to do whatever you want. You had a question:
Check out the site uship. Don't know if the site is as good as it was a couple years ago. You can arrange for a car hauler (the tractor trailers that load up 11 or so cars) to transport your car for you. Usually around $200. However, it helps to be flexible. It's usually private owner operators who are swinging by during a run. So you'll give them a window of when it needs to be picked up, and a window of days you'd want it there by.
But it's probably easiest to make that drive. Usually when you're moving far, you just sell/trash all your old stuff. Buy new stuff at new location. The price of moving all your old stuff isn't worth it.
