@TheBoondocks wrote:
Yeah, never again man. I gave her some money to buy a car, she said she will pay me back the following week. Never got anything back yet leave me in the dark. But she knows what's going on. It's good, she's struggling anyway, 3 kids and everything else she got going on. I don't look at it as a bad thing as I used to, it's for a good cause to help her and the fam but it's a lesson learned cause I will never do that again...
And hopefully once more time has passed you can look back on this and realize you have a mild case of Stockholm Syndrome.
It's not stuggling when they're not even trying to change things themselves. It's entirely possible she's working her next boy toy for more money for that car she desperately needs. When you go back and logically and rationally analyze each of the things that happened, you'll see the pattern. Who is stuggling with heavy debt and can't afford a car but can suddenly pay you back in a week if you loan them money?
One thing I also can't tell is if you ever actually met this person in person. There's a lot to unpack here, and I'm still uncertain whether this is a case of abused girl who didn't get the help she needed and matured into an adult train-wreck or straight-up catfishing.
