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@TheBoondocks wrote:
Yeah, never again man. I gave her some money to buy a car, she said she will pay me back the following week. Never got anything back yet leave me in the dark. But she knows what's going on. It's good, she's struggling anyway, 3 kids and everything else she got going on. I don't look at it as a bad thing as I used to, it's for a good cause to help her and the fam but it's a lesson learned cause I will never do that again...

And hopefully once more time has passed you can look back on this and realize you have a mild case of Stockholm Syndrome.

 

It's not stuggling when they're not even trying to change things themselves. It's entirely possible she's working her next boy toy for more money for that car she desperately needs. When you go back and logically and rationally analyze each of the things that happened, you'll see the pattern. Who is stuggling with heavy debt and can't afford a car but can suddenly pay you back in a week if you loan them money?

 

One thing I also can't tell is if you ever actually met this person in person. There's a lot to unpack here, and I'm still uncertain whether this is a case of abused girl who didn't get the help she needed and matured into an adult train-wreck or straight-up catfishing.

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I'm seeing this more and more nowadays....people wanting (more) kids without any mention of marriage...has this become the "norm"?

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@Gladius wrote:

I'm seeing this more and more nowadays....people wanting (more) kids without any mention of marriage...has this become the "norm"?


I see a lot of the opposite. If you're committed to each other, young professional couples see tax and other benefits in being legally married.

 

Children, on the other hand, are money pits.

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@iced wrote:

@Gladius wrote:

I'm seeing this more and more nowadays....people wanting (more) kids without any mention of marriage...has this become the "norm"?


I see a lot of the opposite. If you're committed to each other, young professional couples see tax and other benefits in being legally married.

 

Children, on the other hand, are money pits.


Interesting!

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@Dinosaur wrote:

@iced wrote:

@Gladius wrote:

I'm seeing this more and more nowadays....people wanting (more) kids without any mention of marriage...has this become the "norm"?


I see a lot of the opposite. If you're committed to each other, young professional couples see tax and other benefits in being legally married.

 

Children, on the other hand, are money pits.


Interesting!


Don't take my word for it: https://money.cnn.com/2017/01/09/pf/cost-of-raising-a-child-2015/index.html

 

And honestly, that's on the low end. If you're the type who wants to send your kid to private school or college, those numbers really take off.

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I bet man, frfr lol. Shhh... is crazy lol. Man, I'm almost gonna be 28, I always want to get married, that ring tho lol!

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@iced wrote:

@Dinosaur wrote:

@iced wrote:

@Gladius wrote:

I'm seeing this more and more nowadays....people wanting (more) kids without any mention of marriage...has this become the "norm"?


I see a lot of the opposite. If you're committed to each other, young professional couples see tax and other benefits in being legally married.

 

Children, on the other hand, are money pits.


Interesting!


Don't take my word for it: https://money.cnn.com/2017/01/09/pf/cost-of-raising-a-child-2015/index.html

 

And honestly, that's on the low end. If you're the type who wants to send your kid to private school or college, those numbers really take off.


Totally!

I don't think that most people actually look at the finacials when having kids, they perhaps feel it's just natural or what's expected. Some have that clock ticking and feel there's only a certain window for them. Others wind up with a kid due to unfortunate circumstances. No one truly understand the full cost of raising kids for 18 years, and then some. So I guess that Money Pit reference it aptly applied. Though most of it is overlooked out of Love of being a Parent. After all you cannot put a price on the joy they bring to your life.

 

That doesn't lessen the stress it can have on Parents, however. 






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