@Gemini101
"FORCE an old man from his home?"
No, I was suggesting she consider forcing an old man to move from THEIR home.
"An old guy with Dementia....that already agreed to GIVE up HIS SS check"
If he remembers that he made such an agreement, and personally I doubt a court would agree to such a thing in his current mental state.
"based on his service"
As a veteran I fail to see what my veteran status has to do with my marital status. I would argue the same holds true for him. However his veteran status does have bearing on his eligibility of entry into certain facilities that would allow for better care than he is able to provide himself based on his medical condition and the current state of his home which was attributed by the OP to his actions.
"He barely has a pot to piss in and to suggest squeezing his old dementia filled head for even more is just OUTRAGEOUS and to suggest to he be THROWN into the street is more than I can handle."
I don't recall making such a suggestion, he would likely share in the proceeds of the home sale as well (even if she sought over 50%) and there are homes for veterans that provide medical care and basic needs. I understand that you might think this is cruel, but similarly what I find to be cruel is leaving a stubborn old veteran with dementia to fend for themselves without the ability to do so.
The OP said they mutually agreed to divorce, she didn't claim the guy was terrorizing her or beating the crap outta her....just that he wouldn't or couldn't ( he is 70) fix up the little old shack of a property that who knows whom bought at what time with who's 💰... I'm sorry but the mere SUGGESTION that a SOLUTION 'might' be to THROW in the streets really ticks me off....
Again, I never made such a suggestion. It is not his home, it is their home, and she is entitled to her fair share. The home likely did (before he allowed it to fall into disarray) and though it's unlikely to sell probably still does hold more value than she will recoup from his SS. So what about her (the OP). Where is she suppose to live, what about the tiny homes, should she just forfeit those as well if they are not movable? Should she just accept a verbal agreement to receive his SS check and leave him with everything and hope that a man with dementia remembers to send it to her? Again, imo it is unlikely a court would agree to such an agreement if they even can as SS is often not an income that can be easily obtained by a third-party.
[Edit: after reading up on an additional post by the OP, it does not sound like the husband's dementia is so advanced he wouldn't remember the SS agreement, but what happens when it does get that advanced.]
"God Bless the OP....but SHE wants better and MORE outta life, which is FINE but WHY does that mean HE is supposed to be HOMELESS with LESS THAN 50% of social security and retirement that he EARNED?"
I didn't suggest anything regarding his SS or retirement. Personally I dislike her current agreement which is why I offered 3 separate options, none of which suggested leaving the man homeless or taking his SS or retirement specifically.
"The man-hate in this 🌎 is beyond imaginable....I can't help but to feel for them, BOTH...he doesn't have to a write post for me to have compassion for the mucked up situation HE is in, as well as her."
I hold no hate for either party regardless of sex, and for what it is worth, I am male. She asked for advice, I provided the limited options that I saw that she can consider and pursue or not pursue as she chooses.
"He's old with dementia, limited income with a mate that doesn't WANT him or to be around him....that automatically makes him, not worthy of the same human decency afforded her?"
I feel like you are reading a whole lot into this post. I am in no way suggesting she deserves or should be afforded more human decency than him. In fact, I am only suggesting she consider 1 of the 3 options listed rather than relying on an old man with dementia to remember he agreed to forfeit his SS when I feel it is unlikely to be ratified by a court, and personally do not find it wise or equitable for either party. [Edit: If anything the current arrangement favors him imo.]
I am a 70% disabled veteran with 17 years of service. Something I can tell you first hand is vets tend not to like to admit when they need help, add dementia to the mix and gets even more complicated. Veterans with brain issues like TBI and dementia and the sort not tend to be less likely to be able to (or admit they can't) take care of themselves but also tend to be targeted for all sorts of scams etc...
"I would ask...what's WRONG with ppl but I already know...men don't count and are less valued no matter what.
Guys better take heed, because push come to shove, you will always get SHOVED in front of a 🚌😒"
Hmm, probably the first time I as a man have ever been accused of being a man hater twice in one post no less. This really doesn't warrant further response.
Let me elaborate on the 3 options just slightly.
1.) Getting an Atty and having him move out of the home isn't wrong. Why should he automatically be entitled to it, it's their home. Having him move out allows the home to be demoed or repaired, which ever yields the OP (and him) more profit. This doesn't mean he is automatically homeless any more or less than it means she would be. There are other options as well that do not necessarily require him moving into a home. He could live in one of the tiny homes or with a family member etc... I hate to elaborate on this further because that's really up to the OP and her spouse, and shouldn't be limited to any suggestions I make being as I know so little about the actual situation. Nor does this mean that she should or would still keep his offer of the SS.
2.) Seek more than 50%. If he is keeping the home, and she opts not to pursue option 1, this puts her in a spot. The two tiny homes are on his property and not likely rentable (due to lack of desirability of the location). Even if they were, couple new tenants with his dementia and this could be (might not be as well) a recipe for disaster. Additionally, her cost of living goes up as a renter offsetting his offer of SS to some degree. Why should he keep 3 homes and her keep nothing else. I don't know what total assets are available, but it is entirely possible that there are other assets that could be split or given directly to her to make the split more equitable.
Why should he get 3 homes and split everything else 50/50 on the promise of sharing his SS especially when that is not likely imo to be upheld by a court and even if it were, she would need to pay rent which could chew up the SS making their incomes basically the same with the only difference being he retains the largest assets. Especially if for example they had 3 running vehicles and an RV; wouldn't it be slightly more fair for her to keep 2 of the vehicles and the RV giving her assets and him assets and then renegotiating the SS part?
3.) Can the tiny homes be moved. If this were the case he might even be able to keep the house. Who knows, she might be able to sell one of the tiny homes, use the money for a down payment on new property and move the other tiny home. The SS might cover her land payment leaving them both in a more amicable position and more fair division of assets.
There are a lot of ways this could go, and it's purely speculation on our part, because of this, the OP who has the information we are lacking, needs to make the decision appropriate to the actual scenario. Given the OP's posts, I have faith she can do that.
Now I do understand that my original post did not provide an abundance of explanation, intentionally so, as their vagueness was designed to be thought provoking for the OP who has expressed no desire to hurt her spouse.
What I do not understand is where all of the "info" you used to fill in the blanks came from. I am sorry you feel that I was attacking or suggesting an attack on a fellow veteran who happens to be suffering from dementia, or on men in general, but that is simply not the case.