I would say many of us here couldn't provide a positive response to that question in the past, yet we can today. Maybe that person will get there?
While dating you'll eventually start questioning if its moving in the direction of a relationship and make a decision how to move forward or not. We're either going to come together and try to make this work or just coast in the meantime. My opinion, coast until you get to that point. I'm a believer in be you do your thing, for me a 1st date is just a first date. I may not even know your last name (hell, real name to be honest) or how you support yourself, your goals, whether you've been to prison and now you've managed to have a good credit score....
Not trying to determine if I'm going to spend my life with you on a 1st date, "so I don't need your credit score, whatever your name is". I'm just hoping for a safe enjoyable date and we'll see where it goes 
That's a really interesting point Trudy.
I have always been open with where I stand both on credit and finances but these days if someone asked me about credit I'd seriously consider just opening up the Experian app on my phone and pass it across the table. Actually on second thought as that's a little confrontational, probably should just smile and ask them how much detail do they want? Reactions matter blah.
I don't know even technology permitting if I would have been quite so sanguine about that 10 years ago. I didn't even know what it was... I figured it was legit sub-400 with what little I knew about the credit market/algorithm at that time, and was surprised even at mid-500's to be told by a WF UW that my file wasn't that bad.
Nobody asked though yesteryear about credit, money sure but FICO? Far more in the public conciousness now. Actually I can be explicit: I didn't talk about credit or real finances (beyond income) with anyone until finally to my buddy sitting at breakfast at the Corner Bakery on PCH lamenting home ownership was out of reach without credit, and he explained a few things to me not quite clue-by-four style. I found this forum shortly after that. Admittedly I have not been a social super star so it could have happened earlier just without opportunity.
These days I really don't see a problem with telling someone my credit score, I don't really see it as personal or confidential and it is a resource.
Sure there are other boxes to tick, and I know I am a weird duck regarding credit scoring but if someone asked me that question, oh God that's hours of easy conversation if they want it just sayin' 
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I should be so lucky to get that much of a pass from the idle chit-chat on a first date about meaningless things which I struggle at.
If nothing else it does bring a new spin on I'll show you mine if you show me yours!
Personally I think I will be taking the @thornback route: leave breadcrumbs and see if they want to pickup the conversational thread. Regardless though some point before getting truly serious the money and credit conversation will be had, that is one of my few non-negotiable things I think.
@kilroy8 wrote:Funny approach.
That stuff comes way later for me.
Chemistry work comes first.
Totally agree. Chemistry first! 
I don't think it hurts to ask later in a serious relationship especially if you're going to be sharing expenses at that point.
@Anonymous wrote:
@kilroy8 wrote:Funny approach.
That stuff comes way later for me.
Chemistry work comes first.
Totally agree. Chemistry first!
I don't think it hurts to ask later in a serious relationship especially if you're going to be sharing expenses at that point.
Yeah but what if you catch feelings and then find out that person's finances are all jacked up and now you feel obligated to help sort things out (and possibly shell out your own $$ in the process) so you two can have the future you envision?? And then you do all that and the relationship goes south anyway.... NOT THAT IT'S EVER HAPPENED TO ME.... IJS.
I have a lot to say about this topic! Although I agree that fiscal responsibility is an important trait in a partner, a FICO score doesn’t give you the whole picture. For example, when my fiancé and I started dating 3 years ago, he was always talking about his 800 credit score, and I’m pretty sure he was trying to get that information out of me. The problem was, I didn’t even have a credit card (or a score for that matter). I had gone without one for about 12 years at that point, because I had made a mess of my credit when I was in college. So instead, I learned to make a budget and live within my means. I paid cash for everything, I saved money, and I had NO debt. Whenever someone discussed credit cards or credit scores, I would internally freak out because I was too scared to admit to anyone that I had neither. Typically, I would mention I was debt free and then move the conversation along. On the other hand, my fiancé with his 800 credit score, loves to shop and spend money and had $15,000 of debt and no savings. All that told me was that he is good at keeping up his payments, but NOT budgeting or living within his means.
Still, the fact that he spoke so openly about credit and his debt, made me more comfortable about it that I started doing more research, which is how I ended up here. Funnily enough, I learned a lot more about credit than my fiancé, and learned that the score he was always talking about was his Vantage score from Creditwise. When I asked him about his FICO, he didn’t know what that was, and I have come to realize that MOST people don’t even know the difference. They go on Credit Karma for their free scores and don’t realize that they have other, more important scores that they should be paying attention to.
What I have taken from all of this is that while credit scores are important, there are better ways to find out how financially stable someone is. Pay attention to their spending, learn about their debts, and be open about your finances. Let them warm up to you until they’re ready to talk about it, so when things start to get serious, you can have that conversation.
