Congrats on getting engaged! There's really good advice on this thread.
When we got engaged we thought about doing a destination wedding or a wedding at either of our hometowns (Puerto Rico & Alaska). We knew our parents will not help and we also don't like asking for money because we know it always comes with conditions and opinions.
We went through our finances and set a budget but we just couldn't justified spending a ton of money for one day. We decided to elope at the beach with just our mom's there.
My dress was from my favorite boutique, my mom did my hair, my MIL (who's a professional photographer) took all of our pics (we offer to pay her but she refused), and a budget friendly makeup artist did my makeup. After the ceremony, we ate at our favorite Mexican restaurant.
All of this was under $1k. We had an amazing time and loved our low-key wedding day. We have been married for 13 years and whenever a friend asked us about wedding planning we give the same advice: plan a day that doesn't affect your financial goals and that you and your significant other will enjoyed.
@ImTheDevil, excellent wedding planning. Your post is nice to read. I smiled when I read about the cars you chose to use. Years ago I had a car that went to more wedding than I did. It was always the bridal car. Some people still menetion it at their anniversary celebrations.
Great job on the wedding!
Just do a small wedding! I've known more than one bride who successfully planned a wedding in only about a month for less than $3k total!
It can be done! Do whatever you can yourself--flowers, decorations, invites....
Congratulations and good luck!
So my question is this – how did you pay for your wedding? Did your parents help? And if so, how did you bring up THAT conversation? I have hinted and joked to our families that we want to elope, but that was not taken well. I obviously don’t expect anyone to pay or give us anything, but I’m of the mindset that if you’re going to have an opinion, you better chip in! Is there a good way to broach this subject?
Sounds like we may have been luckier than some. Once we were engaged, the father of the bride volunteered to pay for the venue, reception dinner (including tasting), and open bar. We felt that was more than generous, so we covered the remaining expenses and honeymoon. Not sure what you mean by "how" did we pay for it, though. Some expenses were paid via check, and the rest via a CC - is that what you mean?
No awkward conversation, no need to ask. Just kind of happened.
A few years ago friends who babied their adults into incapacity were whining and moaning about cost of their over 40 son's wedding. Yes, you read that correctly. He was over 40 at the time. Mom of elderly groom was all going on about how much they have to pay. Per said mom she (bride) should have the wedding she wants since it's her first. Second marriage for both, six kids between them. They went on and on until I was biting the insides of my mouth to avoid saying second trip to the padre you pay for your own danged wedding.