ex gf owes me money. How do I get it back?

[Fox342]

I agree with the above poster.  You can take her to court if it bothers you that much...and depending on how much it is and what your financial situation is.  If she admits in court that it was a loan then you'll probably win.  Small claims court is usually only $50 or so...so it might be worth the gamble.  From what you've said in your posts...it sounds like court or write it off are your only options.  Oh, and if you do decide to take her to court...have the papers served on her in public at your school in front of her friends...embarrassment is a powerful thing.

In college I had to take a former roommate to small claims court, I won...and another one I had to call his father after he hadn't paid me back in over a year...he paid up right after that!  hahaha. So I've successfully used two methods that have been suggested in this thread.  Oh wait, I've used three...I've loaned money and not gotten paid back...so I just wrote it off...but it wasn't much money.  

Good luck!

Fox

[SomeGuyOnTheWeb]

I've been here before. Forget about it. If she lied to get it or led you on, it'll come back on her.

[Anonymous]

this sucks. Maybe threathen her with legal action even if it's empty threat

[gdale6]

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@Anonymous wrote:
this sucks. Maybe threathen her with legal action even if it's empty threat

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One should never make a threat that they dont intend on backing up. Making threats in cases like this rarely resolve anything and can lead to further agitation between the parties involved, I would just chalk it up as a lesson learned.

[masscredit]

I recently let a relative borrow some money and now she ignores me when I contact her to remind her to start repaying me. I'll take the situation as far as I have to and will become worst than a collection agency. They have hundreds/thousands of people to chase for money. I just have one so I can make it a hobby.  I'll garnish her wages if I have to. This info might help you -

http://www.debt.org/garnishment-process/

[TitaniumCash]

LOL, but I would think #1 = #2

[Anonymous]

Oh. Lending people you care for money is bound to happen eventually. i never chase money. If I ever lend money, I'm just assuming I'll never get it back, that it's a gift I'm helping someone out. 2k isn't that bad, maybe it's enough to keep her out of your life for good? It could be worse. 

People have suppressed me in paying me back though, and it was basically a gift to me exhaust ineverexpected together it back.

[Thomas_Thumb]

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@CarbonCard wrote:

Ok so my ex ended our relationship really bad and messed up.(after all the things i did and bought her... yay "first" love....)

So when we were still together, I lent her a decent amount of money.. Now that we're separated,

how can I get my money back? Like I tried to setup a lunch with her to discuss things and she

kept flaking.. I might see her in school this coming week, should I just wait til then?

Oh and I don't want to deal with court or something like that..

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It is likely you don't.

Avoid guilt trips and pleading. Perhaps if her situation stabalizes and her finances improve she will pay you back out of respect/appreciation for you not hounding her. Pressing her will likely just create resentment with no positive outcome.

If you can survive without the money, write it off and move on - no strings attached.