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Superk88
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Nervous about moving

So my wife and I are nervouse about moving. Cliff notes are that I have a new job been here 6 months and love it. Make good money. The problem is I drive 1.5 hours one way daily. Leave at 5am and don't get home until 6pm. With two small kids it's hard. We found a house and got it. 6% using our VA loan. We are selling our current place and paying off all debt escept the new house and will stash a pretty big emergency fund. Gonna shave 1 hour each way off the commute.

 

Still in todays times it's really nerve racking.

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Horseshoez
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@Superk88 wrote:

So my wife and I are nervouse about moving. Cliff notes are that I have a new job been here 6 months and love it. Make good money. The problem is I drive 1.5 hours one way daily. Leave at 5am and don't get home until 6pm. With two small kids it's hard. We found a house and got it. 6% using our VA loan. We are selling our current place and paying off all debt escept the new house and will stash a pretty big emergency fund. Gonna shave 1 hour each way off the commute.

 

Still in todays times it's really nerve racking.


Moving is always stressful, regardless of whether it is across the street or across the country.  Over the years I've had an official residence in seven states, my wife in five, the last three of which were in common, and something over 20 registered addresses, so yeah, I know what you're talking about.  The good news is, in addition to the other positive benefits you listed above, you also get to go through your stuff and decide which to pitch, and pitch you should.  Why?  Because with two small kids, you're going into the most intense accumulation phase of your life, and by the time they get out of high school you're going to say, "How the heck did we amass all of this stuff?"

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itsimproving
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The financial and stress parts aside, I will tell you my rearview mirror perspective having kids who are now 31 and almost 30. Spending 3 plus hours a day commuting to and from work almost their entire childhood and teenage years, I would give anything to go back and get those 3 hours a day back. So, from that perspective I think it is the right move (pun intended 🙃). Good luck to you and your family!

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Superk88
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That's the biggest thing right now is time. Being ablet to spend more time with my Family. I still will have about a 30 minute commute but that's alot better than 1.5hour one way. 

 

We are selling family land I grew up on to do this and sometimes I think the kids may miss it but they won't get to grow up like we did. We were all the time outside riding four wheelers, riding our bikes miles to the store. The area isn't like that anymore. Not to mention all the times we would spend all day on saturday doing yard work. Were going from 4.5 acres to 1 acre. Now between weedeating, mowing and all the other bs it takes me around 4 or more hours to do yard work. I'm ready to get that down to about 45 minutes lol. I just want time back and convenience.

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Horseshoez
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@Superk88 wrote:

That's the biggest thing right now is time. Being ablet to spend more time with my Family. I still will have about a 30 minute commute but that's alot better than 1.5hour one way. 

 

We are selling family land I grew up on to do this and sometimes I think the kids may miss it but they won't get to grow up like we did. We were all the time outside riding four wheelers, riding our bikes miles to the store. The area isn't like that anymore. Not to mention all the times we would spend all day on saturday doing yard work. Were going from 4.5 acres to 1 acre. Now between weedeating, mowing and all the other bs it takes me around 4 or more hours to do yard work. I'm ready to get that down to about 45 minutes lol. I just want time back and convenience.


Sounds like you're making the smart decision, even though it means losing the family plot.  When our financial world imploded eleven years ago following my wife's small business failure and my (former) business partner's fraud when he ran up huge debt in my name, we lost the house our kids grew up in; I was fortunate enough to find a tiny rental apartment on a 100-acre estate to move in to, but I still kind of miss the house.

 

Regarding the move to the estate, the good news is the property was glorius with woods, ponds, orchards, pastures, hay fields, hills for sledding, a rifle range, ATVs and dirt bikes galore, and the ruins of a Civil War era mansion to explore.  The only (partial) downside was my part of the deal which required me to take care of their dozen horses before and after work; a task which could consume several hours per day when the weather was bad, and even in the best of times required me to get up at 4:30 every morning and consumed nearly two hours between the morning and evening duties.  Funny thing though, both of our kids said they felt like the estate was more like home than the home they grew up in.

 

The kids are now off on their own and finally, mercifully, my wife and I are starting the active house hunting process today; we're looking for a place near our daughter down in Maryland.  Yeah, we'll miss New Hampshire where we've lived for over 20 years, but hey, new chapter, new discoveries, and new joys to be had.  Smiley Happy

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Superk88
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Were trying to be excited about it.

 

Finacially it's the best decision.

 

But we are having a little cold feet as we really do like our current land.

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Horseshoez
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@Superk88 wrote:

Were trying to be excited about it.

 

Finacially it's the best decision.

 

But we are having a little cold feet as we really do like our current land.


Yup, I completely understand.  Keep us posted on your progress.

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