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Don't name your children after yourself (an intro)

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Re: Don't name your children after yourself (an intro)

Couldn't have said it better myself !! Wow !!

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Anonymous
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Re: Don't name your children after yourself (an intro)

LOL! This made me laugh out load. I feel like I'm being called out.

 

Yeah, I was going to hold off on the CSR since I already had been approved for the CSP. Wasn't even in on the hype to be honest. But someone suggested that since I was able to get approved for the CSP given the situation I had just come out of, I should go for the CSR.

 

I figured I had nothing to lose anyways since I was going to be planted firmly in the garden anyways after the approvals I got.

 

The CSR wasn't an instant approval. I had to verify information, but I saw the card in my Chase account a couple of days later.

 

If you never ask, the answer will always be no.

Message 22 of 25
Anonymous
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Re: Don't name your children after yourself (an intro)

@Uncle B
Is a winner and a great dude and if folks go back through our post, you'll see many, many kudos back and forth between the two of us, so obviously I have great respect for the guy and he and I have been on the same page many times.

However on this issue, obviously there is a personal pain that overshadows the logic behind using a more fair measure of decision making.

The last post was cool, until the end where the term ' wrong decision ' was used that's going a bit too far, in a general sense IMO

Of course individual parents are just gonna be freak ups, that will never change it is called life.

One has the freedom to call anybody they see fit as narcissistic just in general but doing so with the only standard being the naming of a child IMO is a bit out of whack.

As mentioned a lot of OTHER things must exist for a person to dare I say dislike their parent enough to assume such negative conclusions about ANY person who dares to attempt
Honor
Show respect
Possibly love
For a relative or past relative

Ppl can have different reasons for naming a kid after not only family members or good friends of the family or ppl someone may admire.

Several of our Presidents were narcissistic enough to name their kids after themselves including JFK and George Bush

My point being one can name their kid AND do everything a loving, caring parent should do with EVERY intention to DO great things and set their children up for success
Only point being the two are mutually exclusive

Although I didn't initially desire for my son to be named after me, that was his mother, but I've come to be fine with it but how can I be narcissistic when it wasn't even my idea.

Some ppl are named due to family tradition etc
Nothing to do with whom they are or will be as PEOPLE or as the quality of parenting they are going to dispense.

Again I get some of you have PERSONAL issues that color YOUR emotional jump to overblown conclusions but let's not go overboard with causation.

Again many ppl actually get a credit bump from having the same name as a LOVING parent, just being fair to an alternative narrative.

God willing I won't ONE day I won't ALL Of a SUDDEN become a BAD human being because I file BK
The two facts shouldn't even be considered connected but emotionally ppl attach unconnected issues.

Just a different outtake respectfully.
Message 23 of 25
UncleB
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Re: Don't name your children after yourself (an intro)

I mentioned in my earlier post that my opinion was my own, and that other opinions were just as valid... I meant that sincerely.

 

While I've always taken pride in my ability to change my opinion on matters when I get new information, I admit that I'm not likely to do so in this case since I've been impacted personally; I also readily admit that many people who feel differently will likely not be changing their opinion, either... and that's OK, too.  (I tend to have close friends who have different views from me on many issues, and while we might disagree on some things I appreciate their POV just as they appreciate mine).

 

Even after seeing first-hand the numerous issues I've had, my own brother chose to make his only son a 'Jr.', and while I thought it was a mistake (and I reminded him of my issues) he still chose to move forward, and I respect his decision.  I even gave him some pointers to hopefully make things easier for both of them in the coming years.

 

I can't pretend to know anybody's motivation for how they choose to name their children, and perhaps I was a bit harsh in my generalization - no disrespect was intended.

 

I'll only add that nobody knows what the future holds, and nobody sets out to purposely make life hard on their children; in fairness to my own parents, neither of them had any idea their decision could have such negative consequences.  Nobody plans on having credit problems (or any legal problems, for that matter...), but sometimes "stuff" happens that is simply out of our control.  I'm not saying anybody should be shamed for the "stuff" that happens, or even for their naming choices, just that perhaps in some cases a little more thought should be put into the issue.  Too often people tend to overlook the importance of a name; it literally is part of your identity and can have a substantial impact on your life, starting with the formative years and going well into adulthood.  Basically, it's "a big deal", and should be treated as such, but too often it isn't. 

 

I'll also add that my generalization (unpolished as it is) of course doesn't apply to everyone... it's really one of those 'shoe fits' kind of things.  Of course there will be exceptions - probably many - but in my own circle of friends those of us in this situation have a near-universal agreement on how we feel about it.  I'll also reiterate that it does, indeed, go beyond an Equifax report (as I touched on earlier), but since this is a credit forum I chose to concentrate on that facet.

 

The purpose of my post was to share my experience to give a 'heads-up' to people who otherwise might never think of the consequences of their choice, not to shame or disrespect.  I'm pleased the OP started this thread since it points out the pitfalls that can come up specific to credit files (which I've dealt with as well), and hopefully the data points we've provided will be helpful regardless of one's final decision.  Like I mentioned above, one of my own brothers chose to move forward with making his son a 'Jr.' and I was able to provide some 'helpful hints' to hopefully help him navigate away from some of the more common issues.  (Hint:  If you make your child a 'Jr.', start using 'Sr.' yourself as soon as possible.)  Smiley Wink

Message 24 of 25
Anonymous
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Re: Don't name your children after yourself (an intro)

My oldest brother is named after my father. back in 2006, when was I working in mortgages, I did a refi for one and a home loan for another and found that tradelines belong to one would be on the others credit report. With the use of SSNs as an identifier, I can't see why that should happen. But it wasn't difficult to do. You dispute it, show proof that the other owns it (because you can't really prove a negative) and they were quickly removed.  There's nothing wrong with naming a child after yourself.

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