I'm sorry this is happening but I would guess it is going to get worse before it gets better. You are likely to keep getting hit with the "next" problem. The Family Law procedures vary so much from state to state that only an attorney in your state has a hope of giving you advice that will be helpful. Even they won't have much in the way of absolute answers. I can't imagine that a joint CC is anything other than joint responsibility even if you had not signed the application. It was done so long before Date of Separation that it is unlikely to be determined to be anything other than joint. You could not justify spending $10,000 in legal fees trying to argue about a $7,500 debt anyway. A bigger problem is that the laws of your state may say that the creditor is able to go after either of you for the entire debt. If he doesn't pay, you will get to pay all of it and then try to go after him. That is certainly a very common scenario but it will be determined by the laws in your state and how each person manipulates the system. So far, he is WAY ahead of you in manipulating the system. Give that some thought and plan accordingly. Another big thing to think about is that the norm is for ALL settlements before trial are only for the purposes of settlement and he can, and likely will, decide that any agreements made during settlement are void at trial. If you start paying half of this debt, don't think that gets you out of paying his debt too. What about the shortfall on the house? Check on the laws in your state regarding that debt because it could be the big one. If it goes to forclosure and your state allows the mortgage holder to come after the borrowers, that could be ugly. Sorry to scare you but the bottom line is that you can't commit to much without the help of an attorney. Another thought: Is he a SELF EMPLOYED accountant? If so, forcing him to go through the forensic accounting to determine cash flow and business value can be very good leverage. Too bad accounting firms are one of the least expensive businesses to value. Include ALL items he moved out of the house to the property itemization. Just because it is missing from the house does not mean it is not marital property. If he wants to claim it as his separate property, make him prove it. Start getting copies of all the CC records that have your name on it. Any property bought with those cards is stll marital property unless he can prove it is not. Did he get a cash advance on that CC? If so, assume he used that to pay a car payment on his car he is claiming as his separate property. There will be an expensive forensic accounting procedure that will need to be done to determine separate/joint value. HE will need to pay for that.
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