@SuperFlyEDSguy wrote:
@ElizabethKate Absolutely! I'm at that point now where I must have that mindset, I simply have too many HPs. It's true that I needed those HPs to go from not having one credit card in my wallet to having an AMEX Gold Card in 20-months, but (a) I probably could have used fewer HPs with similar results, yet I got overzealous at times, and (b) additional HPs are now guaranteed to do the opposite and cause cards that I should easily get to be declined because of too many HPs within too short a period. So, it'll be tough, but I'm gonna have to control that urge to try for new cards so I could play the points game better. It's going to be even tougher since I should do this for at least a year, but I'm hoping through December 31, 2023! [sic] 😬
I was actually going to reply to the first part of your comment, but wanted to share the why and not just the what behind my newly kicked-off adventure into gardening! You said it well, really well actually! When people come together and work towards a common goal without trying to one-up the next person, things get done exponentially better and faster too! The community mindset should be just that, humbly sharing those experiences with the next person because we all have a story! Some people may go through tougher times than others, but the truth is we could never really tell because what may seem trivial to one person could mean the proverbial end of the world to the next.
As for stories, there is never really any shame in one if it helps even one other individual in their own journey! Some people may be embarrassed about their BK and never speak of it, but if you acquired knowledge secondary to that BK and if that knowledge could help others prevent or help dig them out of their own mess, than to me at least there's a moral and ethical obligation to impart said wisdom so it may actually help. In the age of the Internet, we may not even know if we're helping other people as I'm certain a great many read the boards, but may never personally comment in them. I think it was at least three years before I joined and started commenting! So even if there's no tangible indication that someone is thankful for a tidbit of information that you shared, the very fact that you are sharing it for the right reasons should be satisfaction in its own right, and that's why I think the folks on this board are amazing!!! People here seem genuine, helpful, humble, and take the time out of their own lives to help complete strangers because they just want them to succeed in the same way. That's a powerful thought! It also goes to show the maturity level of those people who frequent these boards. Now that's a community that I'm proud to be a member of! 😊👍
It was my pleasure sharing and hopefully I will be able to share a lot more as I could fit these stories into a book! My ups and downs in life were either way up or way down, which at the very least makes for good stories, LOL! 😂
Be well. ✌️
@SuperFlyEDSguy Your thoughts are progressive, visionary & inspiring. We have lived {& still do, in certain ways} in a worldwide culture of shame & it can be such an act of courage & self love to let that go & own our experiences. When others see this ownership it becomes a new model for us to look at & consider.
You'd said much that has me reflecting. Thank you for sharing your deeply real beliefs 🙏🏼👏🏼
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Current Score: Exp: 763 {FICO 8} TU: 706 {FICO 8} EQ: 723 {VS 3.0}
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