@Anonymous wrote:Short version of story I'd posted before. Friend of my daughter's, 21 years old, his mother stole his identity and ran up $9,000 in credit card bills with Citibank. Has moved out of the family home.
Off topic: it used to be a really big hit to my self-esteem to be introduced as a 'friend of the family' or 'my son's friend' instead of 'my new daughter in law' or 'my son's fiance'. i heard it, inside my head, as 'you're not good enough for this family' and 'you're not good enough for my son'. nice people. low self-esteem on my part. or maybe they were right. 
(long story.) I mention it because I can't imagine getting this involved in someone's life unless they were really close to your family in other ways beyond a 'friend'. But if you are doing this for them, and others of your children's friends, equally, more power to you.
just make sure you don't end up holding their hand for everything. but thank you for being a better parent to this young man than his own mom has been. I also hope things don't sour in the future between you all.
On topic: I'm going to cry until I laugh if in the future Experian ignores the letter should the zombies come after this young man. I'm glad you all got the letter.
His mom needs to be in jail. If he has other siblings, they need their credit checked and protected too. This cow must be stopped.
Sorry you had that experience, once many many moons ago had a Navy Commander I was dating for over a year introduced me as "my friend" at an event at the Naval Academy - did NOT go over well.
No - he was not my daughter's boyfriend We live in a suburban development where everyone knows everyone and when my kids were little you could still let them walk to school because someone's mom always had an eye on them. And I was a stay at home mom at the time. So I've known the boy since he was a toddler. I felt bad for him - this was not his fault - and who does a 21year old turn to when his father is absent and his mother is who victimized him? Helped another friend of hers who got burned in a real estate deal. Guess I'm just everyone's mom lol. I try to be good to people - karma - paying it forward.
I didn't hold his hand - he quite shocked me when he called the police, took care of all of that - and then emailed me the information. I have access to computers, printers, stationery, post office for certified mail etc - it was just easier for me to cut and paste the letters and send them than it is for a young man working night shift.
I did tell him he should be warning his siblings. They are scattered - the family moved from here a few years ago - he always kept his ties to the area.
