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Judged for using credit?

Has anyone here ever been judged for using credit cards to pay for everything?

 

For example, I have one friend who thought that I was deeply in debt because I was maximizing points by using different credit cards depending upon the merchant. One time she remarked, "If you need any money, don't be afraid to ask me to help you out. I always see you paying with different credit cards, so I assume that they're maxed out. It's okay to admit that you're in debt." I was taken aback, I politely declined her help, and I explained to her that I just prefer to use credit cards over cash or a debit card. She replied, "Well, a debit card is good enough for me. I don't want to get into debt."

 

Another example: I went into Peet's Coffee during a trip to California, and I paid for my drink with, of course, a credit card. The cashier said to me, "Don't you carry cash? That's not a good idea." Why did she feel the need to say this? I mean, I'm still paying for my drink, albeit the merchant is losing a few cents due to swipe fees.

 

Does anyone out there have any similar experiences? I would love to hear them!

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Skye12329
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Re: Judged for using credit?

Yeah my friend somewhat judges me because i also love earning all the cashback. She has a Chase Freedom but never uses it, she always uses her debit card.

My sister also thinks credit is bad, which she thinks credit leads to debt also. She hasnt learned that as long as you use it wisely or for an emergency its ok. Credit doesnt lead to debt only if you dont use it responsibly.
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red259
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Re: Judged for using credit?

I have never had someone judge me that way, but a lot of people believe credit cards are bad and its better to use debit. It is mainly because they do not understand how credit cards really work The whole idea that if you want to save money you need to cut your credit cards up. Of course, there are some people out there who just can't help but spend money and run up their credit cards on things they don't need. Those types of people shouldn't have credit cards.

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mongstradamus
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Re: Judged for using credit?


@red259 wrote:

I have never had someone judge me that way, but a lot of people believe credit cards are bad and its better to use debit. It is mainly because they do not understand how credit cards really work The whole idea that if you want to save money you need to cut your credit cards up. Of course, there are some people out there who just can't help but spend money and run up their credit cards on things they don't need. Those types of people shouldn't have credit cards.


I sort of had conversation with an friend of mine about credit cards. He doesn't quite understand why i have so many card for different purposes. He was like are you laundering money with all those cards lol. He just doesn't believe in cash back or rewards CC, the only cc he would ever want to get is low apr or maybe an BT card. 



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signaturecardmember
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Re: Judged for using credit?

Lots of uneducated people out there on CCs. I am glad I found this forum and if it wasnt for the rewards I would still be using debit day to day.

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red259
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Re: Judged for using credit?


@mongstradamus wrote:

@red259 wrote:

I have never had someone judge me that way, but a lot of people believe credit cards are bad and its better to use debit. It is mainly because they do not understand how credit cards really work The whole idea that if you want to save money you need to cut your credit cards up. Of course, there are some people out there who just can't help but spend money and run up their credit cards on things they don't need. Those types of people shouldn't have credit cards.


I sort of had conversation with an friend of mine about credit cards. He doesn't quite understand why i have so many card for different purposes. He was like are you laundering money with all those cards lol. He just doesn't believe in cash back or rewards CC, the only cc he would ever want to get is low apr or maybe an BT card. 


My ex-girlfriend started laughing one day when I had to go into my wallet to get something and she saw all the cards in there. Honestly most people don't want to go through all the effort to earn points and learn about bonus categories etc. The main reason I do it is because I enjoy it (in a close second is the fact I like the rewards and I want to build my credit profile), but I'm not sure its worth all the effort if you do not enjoy it.

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mongstradamus
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Re: Judged for using credit?


@signaturecardmember wrote:

Lots of uneducated people out there on CCs. I am glad I found this forum and if it wasnt for the rewards I would still be using debit day to day.


why not get something back for stuff you are going to buy already :-) I didn't know about shopping portals for an long time , i didnt know what i was missing lol



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red259
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Re: Judged for using credit?


@mongstradamus wrote:

@signaturecardmember wrote:

Lots of uneducated people out there on CCs. I am glad I found this forum and if it wasnt for the rewards I would still be using debit day to day.


why not get something back for stuff you are going to buy already :-) I didn't know about shopping portals for an long time , i didnt know what i was missing lol


My ex thanked me the other day for the miles she started earning through united dining. She got like 500 miles without even realizing it. I got her to do it because it was simple and did not require any effort other than signing up. Now she just earns miles without even trying. I think most people tend to be the same way. If you make it easy for them they will do it. If it requires effort than not so much.

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mongstradamus
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Re: Judged for using credit?


@red259 wrote:

@mongstradamus wrote:

@red259 wrote:

I have never had someone judge me that way, but a lot of people believe credit cards are bad and its better to use debit. It is mainly because they do not understand how credit cards really work The whole idea that if you want to save money you need to cut your credit cards up. Of course, there are some people out there who just can't help but spend money and run up their credit cards on things they don't need. Those types of people shouldn't have credit cards.


I sort of had conversation with an friend of mine about credit cards. He doesn't quite understand why i have so many card for different purposes. He was like are you laundering money with all those cards lol. He just doesn't believe in cash back or rewards CC, the only cc he would ever want to get is low apr or maybe an BT card. 


My ex-girlfriend started laughing one day when I had to go into my wallet to get something and she saw all the cards in there. Honestly most people don't want to go through all the effort to earn points and learn about bonus categories etc. The main reason I do it is because I enjoy it (in a close second is the fact I like the rewards and I want to build my credit profile), but I'm not sure its worth all the effort if you do not enjoy it.


I originally tried to fix my credit so in case i ever wanted to find a job in financial sector , it would probably would be an bit easier in that respect. Also i wanted to get best rates for next time i need an auto loan. 

 

Now its more about maximizing rewards. In general though getting something back for spending money is better than getting nothing, which is what happens when you use debit card in most instances.



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linux007969
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Re: Judged for using credit?

A few at work freak out when i talk about my credi cards cuz they are so shocked of me having so many and so much credit, The rest are happy and know i am so smart with finance.Smiley Very Happy


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