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@Anonymous wrote:NWM glad to see the FICO improvement. IF you contact the courts you may head off the judgement beign adde to the report, you can pay it within 30 days. Personally, don't thank your wie, children are a joint responsibility. Just think, the child support you may not have paid probably kept your kid from participating in things other kids their age enjoyed.I am a strong belilever in Child support being paid. I have the receipts and Microsoft Money to prove that my kid is 16% of my total monthly expense higher than anything else inclulding mortgage, utilities and groceries. That doesn't count the food he eats or the roof over his head. Just his extra activities, school expenses and wannas. Where it not for the fact that his father pays support regularly, he would be excluded from many opportunities.
Message Edited by Brammy on 04-02-2007 08:27 PM
@Anonymous wrote:
@Anonymous wrote:NWM glad to see the FICO improvement. IF you contact the courts you may head off the judgement beign adde to the report, you can pay it within 30 days. Personally, don't thank your wie, children are a joint responsibility. Just think, the child support you may not have paid probably kept your kid from participating in things other kids their age enjoyed.I am a strong belilever in Child support being paid. I have the receipts and Microsoft Money to prove that my kid is 16% of my total monthly expense higher than anything else inclulding mortgage, utilities and groceries. That doesn't count the food he eats or the roof over his head. Just his extra activities, school expenses and wannas. Where it not for the fact that his father pays support regularly, he would be excluded from many opportunities.
Message Edited by Brammy on 04-02-2007 08:27 PM
Sorry, I don't believe in child support, at least in a form anything like what we have today. I think it's too easy for a woman to divorce her husband, break up her family, and then use the ex as an ATM machine and have the government hound him the rest of his life while she lives high off the hog. My ex sits at home and plays video games all day, while she keeps our daughter over two hours away from me. Why? So she can have a higher percentage of custody (thereby getting more of my money) and a higher support award (by staying at home).
I don't think a woman should automatically get the kid, nor should she be able to automatically get support money just for being warm and breathing. I think having a child should be its own reward. Now in the case of abuse, I think the rules should be different...if a man beats his wife and she takes the kid away in the middle of the night for their own safety, heck yes he should pay support. But if she just "gets tired" of the relationship and "wants to live the wild life," then no, I don't think she should be entitled to child support. She CHOSE to end the relationship, and she should be responsible for her CHOICE.
That's another thing I like about Africa--that kind of nonsense isn't tolerated there. A couple Africans I chat with online said American men should revolt against the "man tax" that the child support system in America is. I agree.LOL!! Just having the kid reward enough in and of itself. Its apparent that you really don't spend time raising your kids. Love him as I do, a teenager is no ones reward. LOL!! Just kidding. When my son is ill or he needs me to particiapte in school, I lose income, I don't complain about it. Kids are not some walk in the sun that shines everyday. They get attitudes, problems and illness and as a custodial parent you can't just walk away from those things, they must be dealt with. Writing a check is one heck of a lot easier to do than raising a child. I write plenty of them and once they're written they're forgotten.
YOU have the option of moving 'God Knows where' because you don't have a kid. I spent over 1.5 years looking for a house simply because I was trying to find one in the same area to prevent from uprooting the kid from his friends and schoolmates in the same town.LOL!! Responsible men take responsibility for their children because they want whats best for those children. They don't punish them for a failed relationship by witholding support of any type, physically, emotionally or fiscally.As far as using a man for an ATM machine. That's also hilarious since I seem to come up on the short end monthly. Not that I blame him it is my CHOICE to allow my son to be involved in the activities he's involved in and I wouldn't have it any other way. Do you have any idea of how much is spent on clothes when a kid goes from newborn to men sizes in 12 years? My 13 year old is 5'10, wears a size 14 mens shoe (which have to be ordered online or special ordered) and a 34" waist in mens clothing.I guess I could shop at Salvation Army or Goodwill but I also chose not to do that. His father pays a fair amount of support and he is supported on TWO incomes not one. Or does it matter that as a programmer I don't need any man's ATM