Hello,
I am very sorry to hear of your situation but I want you to know that I truly understand your situation. My husband was ill for a while and we accumulated close to $40K in debts. So, I have been in that exact situation you are in now. We eventually paid them off because we sold our house and had a large amount of equity to be able to pay them. In the end, it worked out because I found this site and we have been blessed enough to get most of the lates off of our report. That being said, my advice to you would be this:
Ask yourself if you have the capability to pay down the debt in a huge chunk. If not, you have to file bankruptcy because you will never pay off that type of debt. You can start rebuilding now and be good to go later later. If you struggle to pay the debt off, you will still be debt two years from now versus rebuilt.
Think about if you cannot pay the minimum payments now, you want to stop the debts from updating as 30's, 60's, and then eventually charge offs. If you take that step now, versus, later, while a bankruptcy reporting on your report is just that, I do think you may do less damage if you dont let the delinquent payments linger for months before you finally make the decision to do later what you can do now.
Last, I would caution you on using CCC. We did that same program in an attempt to help us. After paying 21 monthly payments of $1000, we were still in debt just as much as if we would have been if we had not used them. One thing I did not know was that CCC cannot negotiate your interest payments with ALL creditors. I have heard some stories where you still pay the high interest rate. Not all creditors will work with CCC and give you breaks. Sometimes, the only thing that changes is that you are in their program and the phone calls stop. Other than that, there was no benefit to having them. They did not advise us that we were not getting interest rate reductions until we were well into the program. If I had known that, I probably would have tried to negotiate a payment plan with the creditor because I did get dinged with a code on my report that I was in a debt management program. I eventually pulled us out of the program as we were able to come up with the money to pay the bills off.
In all, I would say think about your decision very carefully...if you cannot come up with a huge chunk to pay down/off the debts...you probably should just go ahead and start fresh and clean AFTER bankruptcy. Because honestly, you will never pay that debt off or if you do, it will take years upon years.
Best of luck to you and please keep us updated on your decision.
God bless.