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IsambardPrince
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The Millionaire Next Door

It struck me that I've never read this one, but I've been skimming over Wikipedia and I may read it.

 

Seems like there's an overabundance of UAWs on this forum. I used to be a UAW myself, but I think that after the bankruptcy, I became more of a PAW.

 

"Car shopping habits


According to the authors, a common UAW drives a current model car, purchased new, and may have financed it on credit. PAWs rarely purchase new model cars and are less likely to own foreign or luxury vehicles. An example from the book details a UAW that spent roughly 60 hours researching, negotiating and purchasing a new car. In the end, while the car was purchased "near dealer cost," in the long run the UAW's time and money could have been more efficiently spent creating wealth rather than collecting possessions notorious for depreciating in value. The authors contrast the story with a PAW who decided that the pride of owning a brand new car wasn't worth the $20,000 price difference."

 

Remember that these were 1996 prices too, but the concept is the same.

 

Many people waste  lot of time thinking they're doing "research" and then get in the ring with a salesman, lose badly, then come here to discuss their "fantastic loan" on something that's out there rotting and rusting this very minute, and by the time they pay it off (counting the interest), they'll lose 70% of what they paid if they sell it.

 

Wrestling a car salesman is like eating the beer and cheetos diet then convincing yourself that you're going to win against an Olympic Gold Medallist because you saw Rocky II.

 

"The difference between UAWs and PAWs is wealth. Wealth is usually obtained through investment strategies that maximize unrealized (nontaxable) income and minimizes realized (taxable) income. UAWs tend to spend more time on purchasing a car than on looking at appreciating investments. Appreciating investments such as a 401k  or an Individual Retirement Account  (IRA) constitute tax-deferred  growth and produce an unrealized income for the individual holder. Some UAWs do hold a 401k or an IRA but with a low portfolio value. UAWs usually have the belief that in order to comply with the “Better Than” or “Better Off” theories, they need to maximize realized income."

 

I usually figure out how to legally deduct our way to a minimal federal income tax bill, and it's not hard. I'm sort of ashamed that I let it get to $400 last year. (after the tax refund)

 

Many years, I've gotten it down to zero, or lower.

 

There's plenty of quirks in the tax code. It's worth it to comb over everything you could be doing better, and buying a new car isn't one of those things. Fully funding your 401(k) is.

 

"Maximized realized income minimizes unrealized income, increases taxes paid, and produces low portfolio values. Certainly there are some UAWs that invest in the stock market  and are very active traders, but most don't."

 

Translation: They could have a good retirement account balance, but instead they're out hitting potholes in a car that's spewing their money out the tailpipe.

 

"When children are brought up in a high consumption, UAW lifestyle, they are more likely to become UAWs themselves. More often than not, the children of high income UAWs become more devout believers in the UAW system than their parents. The children grow accustomed to extreme luxury and believe that they too must possess the same luxury as their parents, even if their income is much less."

 

Instilling their own incorrect values into the children, thus dooming their children and getting their kids hooked on Mr. FICO and the car fleece on the BMW (Been to Most Workshops) themselves.

 

"Economic Outpatient Care (EOC) is a term used to express when an affluent parent provides money to an adult child. Besides offspring observations resulting in UAW children, EOC is a contributing factor to the passing on of the UAW belief. Offspring who receive EOC have 98% of the annual income compared to their counterparts who are not recipients of EOC. In comparison, they also have 57% of the net worth. EOC gives recipients a false sense of financial security. For this reason they purchase homes in upscale neighborhoods that exceed the recommended value according to their incomes. Thirty percent of American families live in homes valued at $300,000, yet only earn an annual income of $60,000. These homes then demand nice cars for the driveway, nice furniture for the living room, and a nice plasma TV to complement the furniture. These offspring also purchase and consume the EOC rather than invest it. If a dose of EOC is given on a regular basis, the EOC can actually be absorbed into the individual's perceived annual income. Expenditures are then calculated with the anticipation of a regularly scheduled dose of EOC."

 

These are 1996 figures, but the concept is again, still the same.

 

A guy called into Ramsey saying he won $22 million in the lottery and hadn't even told his kids because "I don't want them to grow up and become waiters....you know waiting for their parents to die so they get a bunch of money....I want them to make something of themselves."

 

Very few parents with money instill good values into their children such as teaching them to value living a debt-free life, or to enjoy their life instead of working for a $600 pair of pants from Saks. EOC is dangerous because something given has no value. Their children will simply spend it and come back and ask for more. 

 

My aunt thought she was doing my cousins a favor by leaving them half a million dollars each in life insurance money when she died in a car accident. Within 5 years they were broke and had nothing. They couldn't even remember what they spent it on. One of them is desperately trying to figure out if there is a way to file bankruptcy a third time. The same one that used some of the life insurance to buy her husband a $60,000 pickup truck, then they paid some person out in the country to work on it, and all the dashboard lights came on and the dealership took photos of where the guy had done electrical work with stereo wiring.

 

There's no substitute for life skills and frugality. God help her, now she has a baby after the doctors told her she'd never get pregnant. No telling what that'll cost or what her eccentricities and money mismanagement and hardships will do to the child.

 

There is no reason to be poorer than Job's turkey in Indiana on $160,000 a year, nevertheless, she persisted.

 

Most millionaires that got there themselves say that the most they've ever spent on a pair of jeans was maybe $50, and the majority of them drive a Toyota or a Honda or something and it's fairly old. They understand that you don't "make money from an auto loan" when you spend $80,000 and five years later you'll get $20,000 if you sell it, and lose $60,000.

 

They didn't become a millionaire by losing $60,000 every five years on a cycle of car loans with interest and worrying about FICO scores.

 

"Income is a poor indicator of well-being. On the other hand, wealth is a good indicator of the financial independency or financial dependency of individuals. Unfortunately society has an almost unlimited number of ways to consume income and limited ways to save income; therefore, individuals are more prone to spend than save. That eventually results in an adoption of a UAW lifestyle."

 

The second sentence is probably the favorite thing I've read so far. There's a way to spend income everywhere you look. It's better to put on the horse blinders than figure out how to make more later, with interest.

 

There's a million ways to lose a car in 6-7 years, lose all the money and get a letter saying "We have your car and we are going to sue you."

 

Fun times.

 

They sell it at a car auction and get almost nothing, turn around and sue for like $15,000 or something. It's the most ridiculous thing ever, then you still need to figure out what you're going to drive while they're suing you and nobody else will loan you money.

 

A thousand dollars a month on a car, same time 30 days from now....72 or 84 times in a row.... Smiley Happy

 

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IsambardPrince
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Re: The Millionaire Next Door

From the book:

"In our latest survey of millionaires, 93% are married or remarried, and more than 80% of them agreed that having a supportive spouse was one of the key factors in their economic success. The National Bureau of Economic Research found the median net worth of married couples between 65 and 69 was 2.5 times that of a single person in the same age range.7 And, staying together in a loving, respectful relationship has economic benefits: an Ohio State study found that divorce decreases wealth by an average of 77%."

 

Translation: If you want to be poor, stay single. If you want to be REALLY poor, marry the wrong person.

 

Because marriage is grand and divorce is fifty grand.

 

Getting married to a cooperative spouse, if you can find one, means two incomes, one set of bills, a chance to exploit the fact that your combined income is higher on credit applications, and that the spouse with the higher credit score can apply for things that financially help you, that you can't get. Like in our case, better rewards credit cards. The best ones are in his name because I have a bankruptcy. Nobody said I can't be an AU on his card and it's perfectly fine if I pay our bill from my AU account. He's fine with it, so a cooperative marriage is really an asset to us. This de facto bypasses my time in the doghouse from my ex bankrupting me. There are tax benefits. You may even be able to cut the house down to one car if you avoid having children.

 

Getting married to an uncooperative spouse means that they might spend everything they make, and everything you make, and destroy your credit scores by handling credit poorly. They could decide to divorce you, and take your kids, and make you work to pay support on them without much in the way of visitation. Meanwhile, you have all the same bills and only one income, and the divorce lawyers cost tens of thousands of dollars and take advantage of tempers running hot to encourage their clients to do irrational things just to hurt each other, which runs up the legal bills.

 

Or the woman might get the kids and the dad may not pay the support, and then she's the one with the bigger problem.

 

Staying single means you'll probably be poor, because of the crappy efficiency (one income, same bills), marrying the wrong person will make you so poor you'll wish you were never born, then many people fail to apply the lesson and get married again and again.

 

Like people with two or three bankruptcies, I don't want to associate so much with that, but 1 could happen to anyone I guess.

 

In my marriage, my spouse doesn't understand finances or credit so much as I do, but he's fine with me taking the lead on this, so his credit rating is excellent and mine is....as well as can be expected from being driven to bankruptcy by my ex.

 

Fortunately, I never married my ex, so it was a clean break without any stupid courts and stupid judges telling me what I could do regarding things like, our car payment, so I just stuffed it into the bankruptcy and told the creditor where to find him.

 

Since I am now married, things are easier as long as me and my spouse cooperate, and I think we're on the same page on this. 

 

I certainly can't see a divorce ever happening, but it helps stabilize marriage I think that it would be a disaster for both sides. It gives people an incentive to stay and work on it.

 

It's certainly not in his nature to be frugal, but he's not reckless. Sometimes he asks why we don't spend money on something and I have to remind him that savings is more important than creature comforts.

 

His background is being from a country with a very high degree of income inequality, so his frame of reference was that he had pretty much nothing there and anything here is going to be an improvement.

 

I feel that this psychological background, where he appreciates being here, makes our relationship work better anyway because Americans tend to be spoiled and wasteful and not appreciate it when you're trying to steer things in the right direction fiscally. They want an iPhone, they get an iPhone, they want an expensive car, they get one. With credit, they feel you don't need money or even a job. It's bizarro-world.

 

He understands what I'm doing for him. That instead of iPhones and expensive cars, I've put us on track for a secure and stable future together, even paying his immigration bills as fast as they can raise them next time.

 

He's got a retirement account, which most of his coworkers don't even save for. Instead of having the 6% employer match, it's all being malinvested in a car that's rotting and rusting away.

 

I think he understands why I impose frugality and fiscal restraint.

 

But I really liked this part of the book. It shows that marriage can be an escape from poverty or an express elevator to Hell. It all depends on if you row in the same direction.

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IsambardPrince
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Re: The Millionaire Next Door

"Maybe a bit of wisdom from The Millionaire Next Door is in order: Perhaps you aren’t as wealthy as you should be because you traded much of your current and future income just for the privilege of living in a home in a high-status neighborhood. So even if you’re earning $100,000 a year, you’re not becoming wealthy. What you probably don’t know is that your neighbor in the $300,000 house next to yours bought his house only after he became wealthy. You bought yours in anticipation of becoming wealthy. That day may never come."

 

Earlier in the book, the author cited his dad's book, Stop Acting Rich.

 

His dad said that "When you consider all of the incidental costs, most homes appreciate very little, if they appreciate at all."

 

Which is basically what I was saying all along when I hadn't even read the book, much to the horror of my FICO Forums Hate Club.

 

Incidentals include enormous utility bills that increase every year, property taxes which increase every year (e.g., my sister-in-law where the government wanted two grand a year to waste in 2005, and they want eight grand a year to waste now), homeowners insurance that is 12-14 times as expensive as renter's insurance, inflation, and interest payments. And for many people, PMI which is "cash in the trash" at least until they can cancel it, which may be 8 years of paying another $200 a month for nothing.


On top of having to fix everything yourself.

 

The guy on FICO Forums that wanted to max out an $8500 Bank of America credit card to work on the roof wasn't even getting a new roof, he was doing something involving a "silicone upgrade" to the one he had.


Probably it needed replaced (this happens every 10 years or so, but most people are utterly broke so they push it until they're putting buckets under the ceiling when it rains), he saw the bill, and decided to do something cheaper, yet still costly, and couldn't afford that either but he could fit it on a credit card and have $8500 at 30% on top of the mortgage.

 

Then there's our example of the fridge going out, the air conditioner going out, the crack in the foundation, and the bathroom needing repainted and re-caulked. Since it's included in the rent, I didn't need to worry about any of this.

 

The landlord paid $2.4 million with interest on a building that's not even worth $875,000 according to Zillow. That's his mistake. Now he's rent-limited due to tenants who can get up and leave. He's tried to raise the rent a couple of times and now he has apartments that are sitting there empty while he frantically plays with the listing price $20 or $50 at a time. I think it's starting to sink in that just because he has a book on Amazon on investing in real estate, it doesn't make him an expert.

 

If he becomes completely unreasonable and the building falls apart more, we'll leave and he'll still owe a lot of money and have another empty unit.

 

When you invest in a neighborhood that goes bad, at high interest rates, and the house falls apart on you, you can't just wait for the lease to come up and tell him to kiss it where the good lord split it. You have a mortgage. They don't work like this.

 

Since I have a washing machine I got off Amazon that does our clothes in small batches and a double sink strainer to make sure it doesn't clog the drain and get us rumbled, and a laundry spinner and clothes drying rack, I have no expenses at the laundromat. Full sized washers and dryers are nice, but they're expensive, and they only last a number of duty cycles before you have to replace those too while you're struggling under the weight of home payments.

 

"The concept of spending today in anticipation of future wealth continues to plague those who are unable or unwilling to understand the long-term financial impact of large-scale purchases. Remember Ken, who traded Manhattan for Atlanta? His peers viewed his choice with skepticism, but it ultimately paid off with 20-plus years of reduced living costs. In the current environment of rising real estate prices and stagnant wages, the idea of living below your means—not above them—especially when it comes to housing, is as important as ever."

 

Anticipation is one of my favorite words, especially after seeing The Rocky Horror Picture Show and Tim Curry's take on the word, which seemed like it would go on forever.

 

Spending in anticipation of income in the future is dumb. Many people were told that if they studied STEM degrees, they'd be in constant demand at high salaries in the tech bubble that's starting  to come apart, however, what they found out when they moved to San Francisco or other HCOL areas was that they got an expensive mortgage, and the jobs market became diluted, and then the layoffs started, which is going to spark another housing crisis eventually when they deplete whatever they've saved plus their unemployment, and all they get called in for are fake job interviews.

 

Fake it 'til you make it is an ass backwards way of looking at wealth. You need to make it and then you need to decide what to do with it. Most millionaires didn't get where they are by losing $60,000 in interest and depreciation every 5 years on car loans, or buying a house that exceeded their annual income by 500% before they had any money, and with a very small down payment.

 

If you decide to fake it, you'll be caught on a hamster wheel of debt and will always have to fake it. That's what you get for playing kissy-face with the banks.

 

When you look at the majority of people with large houses and nice cars, these people spend everything they make trying to not have it repossessed, and then 30 days later there's just another payment. They have the banks, credit unions, and FICO threatening that if they fall off the wagon, their credit scores will be destroyed and they'll be sued. This isn't freedom, it is Hell.

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Footnote:

 

The next chapter goes on to talk about millionaires being cheap dates.

 

"Is your significant other dropping hints that indicate he is interested in certain levels of requisite gifts, entertainment, and activities that require spending beyond your (or his) means? You may be involved in a relationship with a consumer-focused partner, one who ultimately may find it difficult to adjust to a more frugal lifestyle which those who seek economic success adopt"

 

If you're ever out on a date with someone and you're paying, pay attention to what they order. If it's something that's multiples of what you're paying for your own meal, then they've already failed the test. People with the mindset that you're paying, so they go for the lobster don't deserve you. What kind of future will you have with this person if you try to combine incomes, get a house, and some vehicles? 

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