Tipping etiquette?

[Anonymous]

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@laz98 wrote:

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@Paxx wrote:

Well of course, you tip based off of the service you receive.

There is very little that merits a no tip however. The service would have to absolutely horrible for a no tip (or $1.00 tip which is just as much a slap in the face). He didn't get my refill as soon as I put my cup down is not a reason to forgo the tip.

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it is very rare that i will "stiff" someone.  one instance that comes to mind is when a group of us went out for pizza (about 6 of us).  our waiter had someone else come & take our drink order.  that same someone else took our food order, & still another person came to bring us our pizzas.  my gf even had to get up & ASK for a refill.  that guy came to the table once the whole time, & we were there for almost 2 hours.  it was ridiculous.

of course, it is up to each individual what they feel "merits a no tip."

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In my book, people that don't tip.... how can i put it without offending....  well they're just plain rude.

You probably don't realize it, but every restaurant operates differently.  I prefer one server to interact with the table the whole time, but different management calls for different scenarios.

That pizza place splits the tips between all those people.  So they all provided you with service, and you stiffed all those people.  They do tipshare, and a food expeditor, drink refiller, hostess, order taker (server), etc all had tasks delineated to them, meaning the server probably had 15 or 20 tables, whereas a typical server would have 4 or 5.  I've seen many restaurants like this.

If I get crappy service, I leave 15%.  If the server is adequate and I never need anything without being attended to promptly, I leave 20%.  If they chat me up and are above and beyond typical service, I leave 25%.  If I just get below par service, 10% is a stiff in my book, but I won't leave less than that.  Your pay should depend on your effort, but sometimes servers are overwhelmed.  If you've never served you have absolutely no idea how stressful it can be.

Message Edited by thrasher865 on 11-13-2009 12:19 AM

[laz98]

thrasher865 wrote: 

In my book, people that don't tip.... how can i put it without offending....  well they're just plain rude.

You probably don't realize it, but every restaurant operates differently.  I prefer one server to interact with the table the whole time, but different management calls for different scenarios.

That pizza place splits the tips between all those people.  So they all provided you with service, and you stiffed all those people.  They do tipshare, and a food expeditor, drink refiller, hostess, order taker (server), etc all had tasks delineated to them, meaning the server probably had 15 or 20 tables, whereas a typical server would have 4 or 5.  I've seen many restaurants like this.

If I get crappy service, I leave 15%.  If the server is adequate and I never need anything without being attended to promptly, I leave 20%.  If they chat me up and are above and beyond typical service, I leave 25%.  If I just get below par service, 10% is a stiff in my book, but I won't leave less than that.  Your pay should depend on your effort, but sometimes servers are overwhelmed.  If you've never served you have absolutely no idea how stressful it can be.

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you are certainly entitled to your opinion, as am I.  but unless you know how this particular restaurant operates, i don't think you can judge me by the scenario you detailed.  & as a matter of fact, i have worked in a restaurant.  i hated every minute of it 

[marty56]

I will always leave at least 10% even if the service is bad.  My reason is that the server could be having a bad day or something else could have happend.  I am not always giving my job 100% and I would hate if my pay got lowered as a result.  We are all human.

[Anonymous]

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@Math_Rocks wrote:

Thank you, all, for the helpful input. All in all, I raised a little over $300 for our getaway (been selling books). A little over half of that will go for the B&B where there will be chocolate covered strawberries in our room (Yum!) and, of course, a full gourmet breakfast the next morning. Since I would need $180 with tip for the massages, I've decided its just not in the cards. (Literally! Both of our birthdays are in the next couple of days so I was half hopeful I might get some birthday money to "put me over the top".) I will take DH for a nice dinner the night that we are there and take him to a movie and a nice lunch after we leave. Truthfully, he may be almost as excited about a movie as a massage since, with our kids and our schedule, it is SOOO hard to ever go to the theatre. (But, man, it would have been nice to get a massage...)

Any suggestions for good movies out right now? I feel like I've been stuck in a hole and have no clue what's out right now.

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Hey Math_Rocks -

Here is an idea.  Get some nice candles, scented oils to go with those chocolate and strawberries, and then give each other a nice massage!  Costs virtually nothing and is oh so much more rewarding, IMO

Anyway, have a great tim

[Lel]

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