It would be nice if FICO could make this distinction! unfortunately, I don't think that there's a way of coding this.
CU's do generally pull a hard upon joining, due to their unique set-up, with the $5 share (savings) account. Do any of your new CU's offer credit cards, personal lines of credit, etc? If so, ask if they will consider you for these without pulling an additional hard inquiry. (PenFed is very good about doing this.) If you don't mind picking up some new accounts, this might be useful for you.
Sorry to hear about the ID theft issues. It's always bad, and even worse when it's family.
* Credit is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master. * Who's the boss --you or your credit?
FICO's: EQ 781 - TU 793 - EX 779 (from PSECU) - Done credit hunting; having fun with credit gardening. - EQ 590 on 5/14/2007